I was in hospital on Monday night (MH issues). My lovely DH had a hour's sleep that night, took ds2 to preschool and got the older two off to school and then went to work.
He saw my sister at preschool and passed on that I was in hospital but that I was ok.
The rest of the day was hideously busy for him, he worked until pick up time, got them home and fed and then took the teens to their activities in the evening before coming to get me when I was discharged in the evening. We went straight to sleep when we got in.
He's off work today with me and we both did the preschool run this morning. We bumped into my sister and my mother. While DH took Ds in to school, they both complained to me that DH hadn't kept them informed of my comings and goings yesterday. My mother then said, crossly, that she'd phoned the hospital and my kids' school to find out what was happening and whether the DC were at school, and was really upset that neither school not hospital would talk to her as she's not down as my NoK.
They both said that I am shutting them out and that they should have been kept up to speed with what was happening, and berated me for posting happy stuff on FB when I was actually heading for a meltdown.
My mother in particular is hyper critical of me anyway and , as expected, her reaction to me being hospitalised was not exactly supportive but more 'why do you let yourself get to that state, why aren't you trying harder'.
Dh is very protective of me and believes I should minimise my contact with my family as they are so negative about me. I appreciate that they were worried, but phoning the school is beyond the pale. There was nothing stopping them phoning DH.
I'm obviously not in the best frame of mind at the moment anyway, and this morning's conversation was hard to say the least, I felt very got at.
Sorry, this has got a bit long. Basically, AIBU to think that in my late thirties I don't need my mother checking up on me like a child and that they ought to lay off a bit?