AIBU to not get the pill for a friend

[fassbendersmistress]

Friend, let's call her Emma, went online last week to buy contraceptive pills. She was turned down because she ticked boxes confirming heart attack/disease in family. She hasn't bothered with GP as she thinks they'll do same. She's 44. She has asked me if I will go online and order it for her. I said no.

She is annoyed with me. I explained that I can't accept risk of the pill causing any kind of health problem, plus it just goes against what I believe is morally right/wrong.

She is having an affair and wants the pill to delay her period on a trip away with lover. This has nothing to do with my decision. I've been a supportive friend through all her marriage woes, and listened and advised without judgement. I'm really annoyed she's even asked this and not sure how to handle it. Maybe just ignore this request and move on. Or should I say something. I do feel like she's heading for a car crash....

Aww no, no weekend away shag is worth risking her health for!

Tell her to forget the pill and get something like jam sponge or soft cup

Your friend is not being either sensible to herself or reasonable to you.
She should not ask you to do this and you are absolutely right to say no.
It is a very easy thing for a GP to prescribe a temporary hormone pill to delay her period as a one off anyway, that doesn't have the same risks as a combined contraceptive pill.
If she would just go and have a proper consult, she could sort this out....irrespective of anybody's views about her reason for needing it in the first place.

Tranexamic acid doesn't delay periods.

YANBU.

She can quite easily attend the GP for alternative contraception, which would probably render her amenorrhoeic.

Tranacmic acid removed my period completely both times that I have used it

I have incredibly heavy periods and was going on holiday. Couldn't get an appointment with the gp so asked in hours on the off chance. They said it would make them lighter but actually I didn't bleed at all.

YANBU

Yanbu, and she is being ridiculous to be angry with you for this.

On a practical level, She should go to her GP or a family planning clinic and explain that she wants to delay her period.

Firstly, there are several short term treatments to delay her period which are safer than the combined contraceptive pill.

Secondly, if she did want the pill for contraception, she is much better off seeing a doctor in person who can weigh up the risks and make an individualized assessment of her, rather than an online tick-box form. You are more likely to get a computer says no answer with the latter (although it sounds like the computer is correct in this case!).

On a friendship level, I would be seriously pissed off at a friend who tried to push me into something I considered immoral for such juvenile reasons. At 44 she can surely arrange to see her GP, change her holiday dates, manage sex with a period, or manage to not have an affair, all of these would be better solutions than pressuring a friend to go against their judgement.

I can't get too annoyed about this, In Ireland it costs €50 just to see a GP. The pill I used t use cost me another €100 every 6 months. Everyone borrows and lends when friends are on the same prescription.

Currently, I'm taking two prescription drugs without my GP giving them to me. They worked for a friend (She gets free med care) so she shares them with me.

You NHS folks don't appreciate how good you have it!