to think if you are constantly posting on FB how fabulous your DP / DH is and

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That there is an element of "The empty barrel rings the loudest ?"

My fb newsfeed is full today especially of "Thank you

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I know a woman in real life , quite successful, two kids, nice enough woman who seems really nice and normal. On Facebook she's a different person. Every second update is how great her husband is, how people who didn't vote for her political part are selfish. She's even started tagging her husband and telling them how great sex is on weekends away. I only hope their 12 year old DD doesn't have FB!

I do this as Im genuinely happy and want to say thanks. definitely not insecure. I do like to show my emotions in real life and fb though. Just hide them if it annoys you though.

But I thank my partner in person and tell him I love him in person - why would I need to write it on facebook? Having said that, I do see people doing this (well, one person in particular) and it appears to be people who really don't trust their partners as they have past form for playing away or generally acting like an idiot. Facebook is great for seeing what people are up to, their holidays, family photos etc. I just scroll through the rest and ignore it.

There's two men on my FB whose partners and them post this sort of stuff
Now 1 of them wanted to leave her for me and the other constantly messages me about how crap their relationship is - I don't reply now.
I feel sorry for the women and realise what these men really are.

I do this sometimes. Of course we have ups and downs, but he's genuinely lovely, I am proud of him and I think I've chosen well. We are indeed well suited and happy. This is counteracted by the many more sarcastic comments we share on each other's feeds, such as this pic regarding his total inability to put things in the dishwasher, preferring instead to stack them beside the sink! Meh, it all evens out. I do know a few people who aren't particularly happy but do a good job convincing the outside world. I actually feel quite sorry for them, it saddens me.

This is one reason I don't bother with fb. It's not real, people lie and it causes trouble. No thanks.

slightly different with me I suppose as some days I rarely see him as I do day shifts and he does nights so will literally hand over kids and go so I know he will see it.

Imo the couples who are ott with shows of affection in public (new romances not included) are usually over compensating for a lack of something else. Feel free to disagree but in life the couples I've seen that are like that and are on FB posing pics of 'the fabulous meal' such n such booked for me etc etc usually end up splitting up

I only know one person who posts gushy messages of love for her husband, but I don't think it's insecurity in her case. She and her husband have one of the strongest relationships I know of - they've been through some really tough times together and still clearly adore each other.

I have two of these couples on my Facebook. One couple, I really wonder if they understand how Facebook works as they seem to post private messages to each other on their page, and they also post embarrassing pictures of their teens in bed sleeping! Teen boy sleeping with cuddly toy and football. The other couple post all that lovey dovey crap, but their dd tells mine of violent fights and break ups.

By "clearly adore each other", I mean in the little things like finding each other's mildly annoying habits endearing, and giving each other lie-ins without being asked, and encouraging each other to do that thing they've wanted to do even when it's a bit inconvenient for the other person.

YANBU The most prolific posters of 'my DH/ DP is so amazing' type stuff on my FB are the ones that have problems in their relationship or have since separated. The same goes for 'my life is so amazing', 'feeling blessed' and 'my baby is so perfect and sleeps all night' type stuff, the more you have to shout about it the less inclined I am to believe you.

I put slushy stuff up sometimes because I do feel genuinely lucky to be so happy with my DH. He's so kind and thoughtful and loving and sometimes I just want everyone to know how much I appreciate him.

Bil posts and tags his partner literally every time they spend time together, saying how much he loves her etc. They live together and have three kids. And he posts about once every couple of months He's never home, out every weekend or if he's not out, he's getting pissed in front of the football while ignoring his family. He only posts because he wants to look good.

Sometimes I write something slushy. Not very often but it happens. I am not a regular gusher like some people are but occasionally while posting a status about something nice we done I will mention how lovely he is. And we actually are really very happy.

I do know someone who posts about her husband, how in love they are but I also know it couldn't be further from the truth.

I am sure some gushers aren't happy, but I'm also sure many of them really are.

I have a friend and her BF who do this. I know for a fact that the BF is leaching off my mate, has moved in with her and her parents. I just want to scream in his face tell my mate that the guy is a twat.

I have a friend who does this. Long, flowery declarations of love at least weekly. I know, because she has told me, that they are on the brink of splitting up. I cannot for the life of me work out what she's trying to prove! (She is absolutely lovely and a dear friend, I hope with all my heart that they work things out.)
Another friend who's husband is a total and complete waste of space, and she posts all over fb about how lucky she is every time he cooks the dinner. This happens very, very rarely. Makes me sad for her.

My DH isn't even on fb and therefore doesn't see anything I post, so even if I was the PDA type, I'd look a bit daft declaring my love for him to myself. Would never happen anyway though - if I love him more than usual for whatever reason, I just tell him privately.

Admittedly I do sometimes post a photo of boyfriend with a nice statement about him if he's feeling a bit down or whatever because it's a bit of a nice gesture.

However I have a few friends who do it lots and you can just tell that they're doing it to show off, be sly etc etc. It's annoying when yet do it in that context

It's all translated as: "look what a great man I have bagged for myself, haven't I chosen well? I must be so fabulous to get me a man like that."

Yawn. And yes, they doth protest too much. And I unfollow from my newsfeed.

I know someone who is always tagging her DH to tell him/show him something. I have no idea why this woman doesn't just private message him directly rather than in public. I find it really wierd, it's as if she thinks everyone is desperate to read about their interactions like they're in some sort of reality show.

Read the circle by Dave eggars. Excellent description of where we are all heading with this over sharing put your life online madness. Read it with my book group all of us now barely use fb.

I would think anyone that did as op describes was essentially quite thick.