calling your baby sexy?

[wannabehippyandcrazycatlover]

I was browsing Facebook last night and came across a post asking if this person was wrong as they called their child sexy all the time and friends had expressed their disgust with this. A lot of the comments were saying how they also called their children sexy, 'sexy legs', 'sexy bum' etc.

Now, I don't know whether IABU as its not my place to judge and/or whether I am getting on my feminist high horse, but I think this is entirely inappropriate to call your child sexy? Please please PLEASE for the love of God tell me IANBU with this.....

I live in the Middle East and a lot of the Filipinas who came up to make a fuss of my baby (happened a lot!) used to call them 'sexy' - I hated it, but to them it's just a complimentary word. It used to make me wince though.

I'm pretty sure I saw on a babyname thread that a woman called her child Sehksi!!

I sat near a woman on the train who kept calling her toddler daughter 'sexy' and 'sexy knickers' and 'you sexy piece'
She was ever so pleased about it. My DD sat there
I had to tell her to reorganise her face into something more neutral

My otherwise totally sensible and non-chavvy cousin did this when her little girl was small - "who's a sexy girl" etc. Don't think she said it with her son. I kept quiet but found it very weird, particularly given the fact that she was the last person I'd expect to engage in that sort of thing...

My sister in law calls her son sexy. He's seven, she's been doing it since he was about 6 months old. Always makes a big thing about it when he's dressed up for a school disco or family party : "oh my boy is looking soooooooo sexy today!" etc. It's not nice to hear. There's a million other words she could use to describe him, why choose that one?

Yanbu it is totally inappropriate, no baby is sexy fgs!

That's revolting! YANBU

YANBU! I'm Haven't heard or seen it used and really hope I never do! So wrong!

Quite normal where I am. I've always said my daughter had sexy leggies.

Blegh, gross.

On a side note, a friend's GF calls her horse 'sexy'! WTF?! Is she going to go Catherine the Great on us?!

I've heard it among a group of mums I used to go to baby group with.

It is inappropriate, to my ears, but they definitely weren't meaning "sexually attractive", they meant it as a synonym for pretty or cute.

Sort of like nine year olds claiming anything they like is "epic" and not understanding that the meaning of "epic" is "long and complicated" - to them it just means cool.

My cousin does this. It really annoys me actually. I don't think she means it is the traditional sense, more a jokey way but it still icks me. She said it to the dog too.

I think "I/they don't mean it THAT way" is a bit of a cop out. Sorry Bertie I ALWAYS agree with you (namechange a lot) but I don't think you can compare it to "epic" because the wrong usage of that isn't actually offensive and inappropriate. It's silly, but innocent. Calling a baby/child sexy is really gross, and if the person doing it doesn't know that sexy means sexually attractive then they need to be told. I liken it more to people of an older generation saying "that coloured man" - it's offensive even if they don't mean it to be.

I live in the Middle East and a lot of the Filipinas who came up to make a fuss of my baby (happened a lot!) used to call them 'sexy' - I hated it, but to them it's just a complimentary word. It used to make me wince though.

Similar to feesh. My friend is Spanish and runs a restaurant. He calls little girls, say under 5, 'sexy' meaning 'cute'. It makes me wince but he's such a nice man, that I'd never say anything. He doesn't find big girls sexy so I'm sure I'm sure he's not looking at little ones in that way either.

I was being silly with DD and singing "look at that baby" and it sounded like LMFAO - both OP and I couldn't help but carry on the tune, "sexy baby" - and laughed but in utter self disgust, haven't done it since!!! And that was in our own bedroom, not sodding Facebook.

Totally inappropriate.

I was at alton towers once and saw a teenager wearing a top that said "I love jis". Just as I clocked it, Rita Queen of Speed shot off and the picture of me was, well, a picture. I was grossed out.

Took me a good few minutes to realise it said "i love JLS". Says more about my mind than it should

Urgh. YADNBU

Took me a good few minutes to realise it said "i love JLS". Says more about my mind than it should

Just. So. Wrong!

Yes. Sexy is weird.

feminist high horse

for the love of God, please tell me, what does this have to do with feminism?

Herecomes you know, objectification/sexualisation of women starting in childhood etc....

I remember being 12 or 13 and asking my mum if I looked sexy in what I was wearing. It was just a word I'd heard and related it to looking nice. My mum replied 'good grief, I hope not at your age! You do look lovely though.' It struck me because at the time I didn't know what she meant and only years later did I understand the accompanying connotations of a 12yo looking 'sexy'. No, op, yadnbu. Babies cannot and should not be described as sexy, it's fucking awful.

Yanbu. Most people in these threads agree.

CrazyCatLover.

'Sexy' isn't a word reserved for women and nor does the OP (in her first post at least) even mention the child's gender but you know, never let the facts get in the way!

Herecome it was my post and the comment was towards a baby girl, hence the feminist comment. I do realise that sexy is not reserved solely for women, however, in this instance it was.

So, facts.