To feel better clean and groomed even though DH prefers me to be more natural

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I like to shower every morning, wear light make-up (just mineral powder, highlighter and eyeshadow along the lash-line) and blow-dry my hair every couple of days. I change my clothes daily as I don't like cooking smells on them (plus baby drools and often spits up).

DH thinks this is excessive and says I smell too clean, he wants me to be more natural, let my hair air-dry.

I'm on mat-leave BTW.

When we went camping we couldn't shower for 3days, he was delighted and found it very attractive. I felt sticky and longed for a shower and think I look a fright in the photos!

Who is being U?

I don't think there's anything wrong with him asking - certainly don't think that's enough evidence to say he's controlling! But YANBU to keep up your personal standards of hygiene and maintenance.

My DP doesn't like women who are really artificial-looking (big blow out hair, fake claw-nails, loads of make up and perfume) but fortunately for him, I'm very low maintenance (lazy).

Robins, my auntie told me that story when I was staying at her place as a teenager and wanted to shower every day! She thought that was excessive.

When we stayed at my uncle's once and showered once a day he was still going on about how we "kept having showers" ten years later.

It does seem a little ridiculous to describe him as controlling when all he's done is express a preference.

I don't think I'm controlling when I tell my husband he looks like a tramp when he doesn't shave on holidays.

I thought thread was going to be about public hair removal. No you are not being unreasonable at all.

I love that, starling - so you were meant to be thrilled at the idea of being attractive to a dead megalomaniac with a controlling side?

Majestic, I think public hair removal would be a very bad thing. While I quite enjoy watching DP shave, I think it would be a rather specialised audience who'd want to see me do my armpits.

'A man my husband works with goes for 3 or more days without showering cause his Mrs will only go down on him when he has a proper stinking cheesy knob'

Did he feel compelled to share this information after someone complained about his BO? I have just lost my appetite.

Expat - he was frequently complained about at work as he stank. HR finally had a word as did his manager. He then left and someone with a big gob let out the story. Being in the same room as him was awful. I can't imagine what his wife found attractive about it. Bleurgh

This thread has suddenly taken a very nausea-inducing turn.

Back the OP, neither of you are BU.

Yak. Bet it was all bollocks, too. He was just the garden variety, soap-dodging minger.

Fair point starling

So, the cheesy knob story - man pongs so much whole company is revolted, it's escalated to HR and he has to leave but it's all down to his wife's love of fetid bell end.

As excuses go, the one blows "dog ate homework" right out of the water.