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To think banning swearing is immature?

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Sounddofsilence · 17/04/2016 21:26

I'm part of a diet group on Facebook.

Someone wrote that they were pissed off and the mod replied - whoops I see there is a swear word hun, please edit your post.

It's a private group.

I understand saying certain words, like fuck, cunt etc can be offensive but surely as adults we should be allowed to openly swear in an adult environment?

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Itinerary · 17/04/2016 22:19

Maddy I've read about the study you linked to. The participants had to name as many swear words as they could, and then as many animal names as they could. Not surprisingly, those who named more swear words also named more animal words.

Surely that just shows that people with a good vocabulary know more words in more categories, including the swear word category. It doesn't necessarily mean they use swearing as a higher percentage of their speech than anyone else.

BertrandRussell · 17/04/2016 22:24

I don't 'like swearing as punctuation, either, but I think it's fantastic in it's place, I don't think saying you're pissed off is swearing,though.

I wouldn't want to be a member of any group that use "whoops" and "hun/hon" though.

FunnysInLaJardin · 17/04/2016 22:26

my 6 yo said cunt the other day. He'd seen it on a toilet wall at DH's school. Twas fine, just told him it was the worst swear word and he mustn't use it at school or at home. He hasn't.

Swearing is fine in context.

FunnysInLaJardin · 17/04/2016 22:27

I asked my cat if she was 'OK hun?' this morning. It made me laugh......In fact I said R U OK hun and sniggered to myself

mudandmayhem01 · 17/04/2016 22:29

I love swearing, one of the many happy memories of my late father was when he considered me old enough ( mid teens) to swear in front of. we did rock climbing together, if got scared or found a move hard he would use foul language. He would also tell gruesome stories from his medical practice. I miss him everyday and he was fucking awesome.

CockacidalManiac · 17/04/2016 22:29

I wouldn't blame your cat if he moved out now.

MidniteScribbler · 17/04/2016 22:30

I don't have any problems as such with swearing (although I wouldn't call 'pissed off' swearing really), but I do think you choose your audience. On AIBU where it is generally accepted, then go for it, but on a different forum where it may be a different audience, then I don't think a conversation liberally peppered with 'fucks' is necessary.

specialsubject · 17/04/2016 22:44

the lesson I had was that if you swear all the time, what do you say when you drop something on your foot?

we all do it sometimes, but it does make you sound a bit thick if it is continual. Witness Charlotte Church on the Last Leg, lots of coherent stuff to say but made an arse of herself with the endless 'look at me I'm so cool I only know an adjective that starts with 'f'. (and with shoes so stupid she couldn't even sit down in them, let alone walk...)

MaddyHatter · 17/04/2016 23:12

I have been told i'm going to hell for my excessive use of the word 'fuck'

I took the liberty of renting a bus in case any of you fuckers need a ride!

BackforGood · 17/04/2016 23:20

I agree with those saying that swearing is far more immature than asking people not to.

It does make me wince when I see everyone calling each other 'hun' in some FB groups though - what's that all about ??

MaddyHatter · 17/04/2016 23:23

no idea

for 1, its 'hon' being short for 'honey' (i call people chick and not hon, but thats not important right now)

and 2, i don't think i can see Ghenghis around here any where!

SawdustInMyHair · 18/04/2016 00:49

Still spelt 'hun' when shortened though. Don't blame me, blame English!

fatmomma99 · 18/04/2016 00:58

I must be vulgar and vile ESD, because I love both those words.

And also cunt fuck bollocks.

FunnysInLaJardin, I think you're ace.

And, mudandmayhem0, I miss my dad every day too!

TooOldForGlitter · 18/04/2016 01:02

Cody this thread isn't about racist words, it's about swearing.

herecomethepotatoes · 18/04/2016 04:24

I think it's immature to be unable to respect something someone else would like without flouncing away to complain to a bunch of foul-mouthed MN'ers.

I'm surprised by how so many users of Mumsnet revel in their swearing. I don't take offence at it just wonder how you function in real life.

Of course piss off is swearing. Swearing is the use of vulgar language ie. lacking sophistication or good taste or offensive reference to sex or bodily functions.

BarbaraofSeville · 18/04/2016 06:12

Pissed off isn't swearing. Fuck, cunt, twat is, but if everyone in the group are adults I don't see the problem.

Swearing isn't a sign of a limited vocabulary. You know all the swear words and the other words too.

The OPs FB moderator needs to unclench and grow the fuck up.

BertieBotts · 18/04/2016 06:22

Maybe it's not an adult environment? You need to be 13 for a Facebook account, not 18. Always assume unless you know otherwise that younger people might be on a group like that.

herecomethepotatoes · 18/04/2016 06:35

BarbaraofSeville

Of course piss off is swearing. Swearing is the use of vulgar language ie. lacking sophistication or good taste or offensive reference to sex or bodily functions.

Thisismyalias · 18/04/2016 06:47

Possibly because they've got younger teens in the group.

It just says to me that you can't control your own emotions and you want someone else to do it for you.

Headofthehive55 · 18/04/2016 07:12

I don't swear.i don't think it adds anything. There is a woman at work and she peppers her conversation with swear words. It's hard to listen to and extract what she is trying to say. I end up mentally thinking do hurry up and get to the point.

corythatwas · 18/04/2016 07:24

I don't have a problem with the swearing on MN, but I also perfectly understand why it is banned on another forum I frequent, because of the wider age range it covers. And would expect it to be banned on e.g. the local church forum.

To my mind, adults self moderate according to their surroundings.

Mouseinahole · 18/04/2016 07:38

I neither use nor like to hear the various sexual swear words which are so common. I wouldn't like to hear swearing as part of conversation in real life although I know the young indulge in it these days.. I certainly don't object to what people say on here though I doubt if most posters would use the same language irl. Pissed off, arse, crap etc don't seem like real swearing somehow .
I would 'judge' someone whose conversation was peppered with f, c etc but I'd keep my judgement to myself.

SouthWesterlyWinds · 18/04/2016 07:41

Meh! Swings and roundabouts. Here you can swear. The FB group probably have stricter guidelines.

Ohsotired123 · 18/04/2016 10:58

I too think swearing constantly is immature really and it's really irritating. But I do swear and would never ask someone not to swear in a private chat group, especially if they were mates. Yes this is immature of them and really pathetic they need to get in the real world!

purplevase · 18/04/2016 11:38

I think needing to swear is immature online. You're not speaking, you have time to consider what you've written before you press the submit button. There's no heat of the moment.

And some swearwords are very unpleasant words for a woman's anatomy - why would a woman want to use them anyway? And they are meant to be offensive, otherwise why use them? Whereas somebody might use a racist or sexist term without intending to be offensive, if they simply don't know the history behind an expression.

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