Unreasonable or ungrateful?

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DP had planned to take DC1 out for the day today with friends (his mate has 2 boys similar age to our son who is 3.5) for ages. Nothing concrete was ever planned though.

At 11am today DP gets a call and they are being picked up in half an hour... All good, I make them some sandwiches and pack them off.

It's 7.30pm and they aren't back. DC has school tomorrow he is full time at preschool so would normally be in bed by now

I've had some messages with DP who is saying it's just a "one off" and as they got a lift he can't dictate when they leave..... He said his friend went to a lot of trouble to get a spare car-seat etc and is insinuating I'm being ungrateful.

They went to a seaside resort about an hours drive away.

Aibu to think this was bad planning and my son is going to be shattered all week now?

He won't need a bath! Just pop him straight into bed.

He probably won't disappear under the dirt if he misses a bath! If he's awake when he gets home then teeth jamas and bed, else I'd skip the teeth and straight into bed. It's once - seriously what do you think will happen?

He may be a bit tired but it will I'm sure have been worth it.

You know it's not actually school, right? It's nursery. Not A Level Maths day.

I wouldn't worry - I bet he's had a great day! If he is knackered though I might reconsider all that preschool - over 31 hours a week seems v OTT!

it's annoying when you want your son in bed by a certain time and then want to do your sunday evening stuff (mob wives, towie, etc???) in peace.

hope your son is totally shattered (in a good way!) and had a lovely day. can you get him out of bed later tomorrow morning and give him breakfast in the car/in his hands (toast?) on the way to preschool if he's really pooped?

i don't think you're unreasonable. he's young and you;re his ma. my daughter got back from a trip to london once (long story) at 1030pm (she was 6) and she tucked ME in as i was already in bed. i was hopping mad that her dipstick grandmother had made her so late.

yes sorry OP YABU why not take advantage of the free time

I think you are over reacting.

I don't think you need to worry OP. Just let him have an early night tomorrow.

He'll be all sandy so I would give him a quick bath.

He will be fine. If he's that tired then take him in late tomorrow.

We drove from Yorkshire to Dorset last Sunday and should have been home by 9.30pm. We broke down on the motorway 25 miles from home and finally got back at 12.15am. My 10 year old was so tired I let her sleep in and took her to school late. They were absolutely fine with it.

Sometimes shit happens and it's not the end of the world.

If you child has had a lovely day, with his dad and other friends, and you know that he is safe, why would you be unhappy about that?? So he may be tired tomorrow, he will get over it. Going to bed a bit dirty, a bit hungry and without cleaning his teeth occasionally will not do him any harm at all. Don't spoil their day by being a grump.

He's doomed. No GCSE's, forget University & a career...

Come on. It's PRE school!!

Don't spoil their day moaning about it.

Good lord! A small child has fun at the seaside, gets back a bit late and the WHOLE WORLD COMES TO A STOP. No really, hopefully he'll have had a lovely day. no-one had to get stressed with an early start (because herding small children is not easy first thing). And if he's too tired fro pre-school tomorrow and someone is at home to look after him there's no reason to send him in.

you're very BU. it's good to break the routine sometimes. he'll survive.