To be proud of myself

[Icklepickle101]

13 week old DS is still exclusively breastfed, an achivement I was incredibly proud of. He had a tt which wasn't diagnosed until 5 weeks and still hasn't been snipped and so at one point my nipples were so cracked DS would have blood round his mouth where they had bled so much, I cried through every feed for at least 2 weeks and he fed every 45 minutes. But I was so determined to keep going because I knew it should get easier and I wanted to give my baby the best immune system I could. No one seems to appreciate how difficult it was for me to keep going and I have constant battles with my mil and other family members who all are trying to push me down the formula route. DS has gone from 25th to 98th centile so is thriving and happy but mil insists if I wanted what was best for my baby I would give him formula. I just don't think she appreciates how bloody hard it has been for me to feed him exclusively for 13.

Sorry for ranty post she just text me saying "I've bought bottles and formula ready for you, for when you finally see sense and do what's right for your baby"

Aibu to be bloody proud of myself for breastfeeding this long and give mil a slap

Well done. I had similar problems and gave up but I was on my knees in tears when the midwife came! I still felt guilty though. As long as baby thrives anyway is good and nobody should be made to feel guilty x

You've done amazingly well, you should be so proud of yourself op! Well done!
I know exactly the hell yours going through, DD had a posterior tongue tie which wasn't picked up until 3weeks and was finally snipped at 5weeks. We went to have it done at a private hospital in the end as the NHS couldn't give me a date and said just it would be done before she was 12weeks - not very helpful!
Having had DD's tt snipped we now know it's a ten second procedure so goodness knows why our trust said it would take so long to do!
I could feel the difference immediately, it stopped feeding from being painful, but probably 50% of feeds were uncomfortable as DD had to learn how to latch properly. It wasn't until she was 12weeks that it was completely without discomfort. The bf counsellor said this was to do with her mouth growing and able to take more breast in and not just nipple.
She's now ten months and we're still happily breastfeeding with no discomfort at all. Like you, it took sheer bloodymindedness and determination to get through those weeks until the tt was snipped, but I'm so glad I hung in there.

It makes me particularly cross as I asked the so called breastfeeding expert midwife in hospital if DD had a tt - we were re-admitted due to her losing weight and my milk not coming in for seven days - and she checked and said no. Five minutes into a feed with the local NHS bf counsellor and she immediately picked up a posterior tt.
So have another heartfelt 'well done' from me!