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To actually be considering slashing this womans tyres?

108 replies

FlyRussianUnicorn · 15/04/2016 17:13

Wanted to get to a chiller cabinet in morrisons and someone had left a trolley with a baby in the way. So i moved the trolley forward so I could get to what I want.

Que mother attacking me for trying to run off with her baby. I moved the trolley maybe half a metre if that. It took 3 seconds and when she came over I was clearly looking in the chiller cabinet at the meat.

I told her to get a grip, I wanted to get to the cabinet and I moved the trolley so I could get to what I wanted. No idea whos trolley it was as I had come down from another part of the supermarket and just saw the trolley-didnt pay any attention to anyone around me. Que a 2 minute tirade of abuse- I just rolled my eyes and walked off in the end.

Went out to my car and was sat having a cogarette waiting for a friend to call about coming to meet me. The car park is owned by the council, not the supermarket.

Anyway the woman came out- and was parked in the P+C bay next to me (I have a blue badge before I am flamed because im child free)

I looked up from my car and the woman just gave me a filthy look and stormed off in the direction of the supermarket again. Next thing I know the supervisor is knocking on my window asking me to move along as im making her uncomfortable "watching her child". I explained the situation and that the supermarket have no right to ask me to move- its not their property, id paid for 2 hours parking and I would be staying until my friend got in contact. The supervisior then apologised, and went on her way.

the woman has gone back into the supermarket, no idea why- clearly im going to attack her and steal her child Hmm

OP posts:
JuneBuggy · 15/04/2016 17:39

Any minute now we're going to get another AIBU about the crazy woman who moved a child in a trolley in the supermarket, told the mother to get a grip when she complained, and is now sitting in the car park spying on her child with the intention of kidnapping it.

She's probably a Nethun rather than a MNer, or it'll be on the OP's town Facebook page Augusta Wink

Narp · 15/04/2016 17:40

The woman is behaving irrationally. I would not take it personally.

specialsubject · 15/04/2016 17:42

I'd move an abandoned in-the-way trolley if it was brimful of kids. The OP only shifted it a bit, hardly child abduction.

no, tyre slashing not on but 'the world revolves around me because I bred' is also the wrong attitude.

GingerMerkin · 15/04/2016 17:42

I would have told the supervisor she was making me feel fucking uncomfortable too. Can I come and help with the slashing, I have some big kitchen knives.

t1mum · 15/04/2016 17:43

It would have been polite to check whether the baby's "responsible adult" was around before moving the trolley and/or to have announced what you were doing. It's a bit weird to go ahead and just move a trolley with a baby in it without checking.

Sounds like she overreacted initially because you'd behaved a little unusually and she was feeling protective of her baby. An understandable overreaction. Then you told her to get a grip, etc, etc. which ramped up the situation into a confrontation. Which then escalated again to the point where you want to slash her tyres. I don't think it ended particularly well did it, and I'm sure you are both rethinking your responses.

Lanark2 · 15/04/2016 17:44

Slashy kitchen knives are in aisle 10

Narp · 15/04/2016 17:44

fwiw telling someone to get a grip is really rude, IMO.

WorraLiberty · 15/04/2016 17:46

Am I the only one who thought the OP was sitting in her car, having a 'courgette'? Grin

Oh, just me then Blush

Birdsgottafly · 15/04/2016 17:46

What do you mean by 'not paying attention to anyone around you'? A quick look might have meant that you saw who the baby was with.

You can see into chiller cabinets without opening the doors and you can move the trolley slant wise to reach in.

Would you just move a person in a wheelchair, including someone non verbal? Or don't babies count as people?

I generally don't rise to other people, especially new Mum's, though.

FantasticButtocks · 15/04/2016 17:48

I wouldn't have hesitated to move her trolley, what else were you supposed to do? Were you supposed to stand there like a lemon and wait for her to return until you could get to the chiller? If she doesn't want people kidnapping moving her child/trolley, she shouldn't leave them unattended. Sometimes people get very annoyed when they know that something that is bothering them is actually their own fault.

Reapwhatyousow · 15/04/2016 17:50

YANBU & IMHO the mother vented after having a nano second of fright because the child she turned her back on was not precisely where she left it. May common sense prevail x

Ifailed · 15/04/2016 17:52

We don't have these sort of problems in Aldi, change where you shop.

SoleBizzz · 15/04/2016 17:53

I would have moved the trolley too. She left the baby unattended and screams at you for moving the trolley. Perhaps she is power tripping now that she is a Mother. As fir her telling security you were watching her! Wow what an overreaction. What if somebody had taken her baby ad she left it all alone. Nit so perfect herself is she? I would have gone crazy at her!!!

OurBlanche · 15/04/2016 17:53

I would have moved it too. You may be able to peer into many cabinets but, to be blunt, keep yer feckin kids and yer feckin shopping under your own control then no-one will interfere with them/it.

Seriously, who leaves their trolley, without or without kids, without at least having a hand on it, a leg near it? If you do then someone (probably me) will move it if it is in the way! The supremarket being, you know, for the use of the many, and all that!

primarynoodle · 15/04/2016 17:53

Not usually one to be all pc but i dont think comparing a mentally concious and aware non-verbal adult in a wheelchair and a baby is ok Hmm

AlleyCatandRastaMouse · 15/04/2016 17:56

Who leaves their DC in an unsupervised trolley anyway?

^ this

MTPurse · 15/04/2016 17:56

We don't have these sort of problems in Aldi, change where you shop

2 days ago I moved someones trolley in Aldi to get to the Frozen Mashed Potato I feel No Shame

Ilovetorrentialrain · 15/04/2016 17:57

I'd have definitely found the mum and asked her to move the trolley.

(It's 'cue' sorry, Blush.

Narp · 15/04/2016 17:58

No-one knows if the trolley was unsupervised. The OP doesn't know - she never looked

I don't think anyone come out of this confrontation very well

WorraLiberty · 15/04/2016 17:59

Frozen Mashed Potato and you feel no shame MTPurse!! Shock

Slattern Grin

Ifailed · 15/04/2016 18:00

MTPurse
Was that you? thanks, as you moved it nearer to hell checkout.

MTPurse · 15/04/2016 18:00

In fact Aldi riles me more than any other shop tbh, there always seems to be Mum, Dad and 5 dc grouped in a bunch around the items and I find myself hovering and waiting for them to move, a baby in a trolley I would move but I think picking dc up one by one and moving them would be going a bit too far Grin

ingeniousidiot · 15/04/2016 18:01

Aldi sell frozen mash?

seafoodeatit · 15/04/2016 18:02

YANBU but did you look around to see if the mother was close? it might have been easier to call out and ask them to move the trolley. I agree that telling the security guard was OTT.

I've stopped myself from arguing with a stranger over this before, I was right next to the trolley and reaching for something when they decided to move my trolley with toddler on it, I don't think my comment went beyond can you not wait a few seconds?

Greengardenpixie · 15/04/2016 18:03

She shouldn't have left her baby unattended. She does sound like she over reacted. However I personally wouldn't have moved the trolley. I would have got the stuff I needed, gone to the next isle and come back. I would have also looked to see who the trolley and baby belonged to.

Are you a man? Sadly I think if you are male then this could be why she over reacted. Before I get flamed, I know it shouldn't make any difference but from experience [ my uncle went to help a child] and was screamed at for trying to help a distraught child. I wonder if the reaction would have been different if it was a female going to help. I am very cautious and I am a woman.