To think he should get rid of the cot!!

[greatscott81]

So my ex has DD (3) every weekend (against my wishes but we haven't gone to court yet so this is another story). Anyway, it's come to my attention that she is still sleeping in a cot at his house. I am aware she's still being fed from a highchair (the same we had when she was 6 months old) and she's come home wearing shoes which are 3 sizes too big). He claims not to know what to do but I've given him pointers and he doesn't listen. Apparently I am told I am a nagging, stirring b*tch. He simply won't listen. I am aware that shoes that are too big will damage her feet (so I have confiscated them) but could sleeping in a cot at 3 be developmentally damaging? I'm worried she doesn't have enough room. She has a proper single bed here.

My son is 3 in October. He shares a room with brother (7) and they have bunk beds set up. dc refuses to go in the bed and cries for the cot when I try. He still physically fits in it, with plenty of room to spare and he obviously feels that this is his bed. I am not going to force the issue, the bed is there when he's ready to sleep in it. I can't see how this could be damaging to him in any way. Btw, my other 3 were all in beds by age 1 but i'm not concerned at all and neither should you be.

Tbh you sound more like you just don't like your ex husband. Could you invite him into your house to show him what she has? Chair/bed wise? Not that those things matter if she is safe and happy. Does he know to take her to a shop that measures her feet if he wants to buy her shoes? I know that sounds obvious but you don't know what you don't know until someone tells you that you don't know! Parenting does come more naturally to some but, whatever happened to end your marriage, you should be doing it together unless you have reason to believe she or you is unsafe in his care. He sounds more like a bit of a well meaning doofus rather than someone to be angry with.

It would annoy me. DS moved out of cot and highchair at 18 months. It must be hard seeing things done so differently.

Ds was in his cot until 3. Then a toddler bed until 8. He had a tiny room.

He also used his high chair until about 5. Not with the tray, but as a higher chair at the table. As he wasn't particularly tall.

Dd is 3 and still in her cot. Hers is a cot bed. But she moves around so much in the night, she would be on the floor...

She has her pillow and quilt, like a proper bed. But without falling out. She is happy there.

She is also still in her high chair. Her coordination issues means she is safer there at the moment.

But her shoes fit!
And get measured and checked at the start of each month.

She also gets a pouch of baby mush sometimes. It's the emergency stash in the car. We can't "just grab a sandwich" for her as she can't eat wheat. Usually we do all have a picnic lunch, but if we are out late or stay somewhere too long, I know the mush will still be edible after being in the car for a week or 2.

Most 3 year old son I know won't put up with cot or high chair if they don't like it!
They will throw a major hissy fit.