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AIBU?

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About my bloody neighbours?

31 replies

VelvetSpoon · 14/04/2016 20:20

So I've posted before about my neighbours - nothing appalling, but lots of low level stuff ie they let their kids chuck rubbish, toys etc into my garden all the time, their refuse bin is constantly overflowing meaning that their rubbish, quite often soiled nappies, gets dragged by foxes and cats all over my garden, and my favourite, they cut down lots of the overhanging branches from my trees (yes I know they can do that) but then rather than doing the token 'offering' me back all the branches etc, wedged the lot on my side of the fence...you get the picture.

Anyway, at some point over the last 7 days or so, one of the panels in the fence between our houses came loose, it's not fallen down but has come out of it's post, and is leaning against their house. I can't say 100% when it was, it definitely wasn't any longer than that - it wasn't like it last Weds, and I first saw it on Sunday.

I can't remember if it's our fence or not (I do vaguely recollect that it's the fence on the other side which is mine, but I'd have to check the deeds to be sure). However I'd thought it they hadn't fixed it by this weekend, then with my bf, I'd do a makeshift repair (as longer term I'm intending to get someone in to put up a new, taller, fence the full length of the garden). I've never had to repair a fence at all before, and I'm not particularly practical, so I'd rather he was there to lend a hand. So far as I was concerned it wasn't a priority - I don't use the garden much mainly because next doors kids are always making a racket in theirs and not at all at this time of year. Also I work ft, leave the house at 7.30 and this week have been out every night til 7.30-8 due to work, driving lessons, shopping, etc.

Anyway so I've come home tonight (half an hour ago as I was working til 7pm) to a properly PA note sellotaped to my door asking could I fix the fence as 'it's a danger to our little children' . According to my DS, someone was banging at the door at 5pm (he doesn't normally answer the door when he's home on his own).

AIBU to think it's really not that dangerous (it's a fence panel ffs) and in the time it must have taken to walk round to my front door, knock, get no reply, go home, write note, come back and stick it on the door, he could probably have fixed the fence himself (he works in some form of construction). and be very tempted to send some similarly PA note back?!

Oh, for completeness - the fence on the other side of their garden blew down at the start of the year, and broke into pieces. It was like that for weeks before they chucked it in my skip disposed of it, and since then there's just been a gap between their house and their neighbour....

OP posts:
knaffedoff · 15/04/2016 07:55

I wouldn't look to do a temporary repair on my neighbours fence, perhaps your neighbour has checked it's your fence, thus your responsibility and asked you to complete the necessary repairs. Not unreasonable IMO!

Collaborate · 15/04/2016 08:05

perhaps your neighbour has checked it's your fence, thus your responsibility and asked you to complete the necessary repairs. Not unreasonable IMO! Maybe the neighbour can give OP a list of things they would like her to do to her property. Maybe some roof tiles are slipping. Maybe the lawn needs cutting.

If the neighbour wants their garden to be fenced they can always buy one and put it up their side of the boundary.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 15/04/2016 08:14

Lay the panel down... Bingo you've removed the potential hazard...

Afaik you can't be forced to put up fencing... If they want to have a fence, they can put one up just inside their boundary... Some properties I remember renting in London had back to back fences with about 4 inches in between as both sides wanted the pretty side facing them! Grin

GreenishMe · 15/04/2016 08:40

I'm having the same sort of issues as you and from my own 'research' I've discovered that if it's your boundary you can decide what to do/not do ......you can mark it with nothing more than a daisy chain if that's what you choose to do.

Which means either way, whether it's yours or theirs doesn't really matter... you're not obliged to pay for a new fence panel.

However, if you do take on the repair it might be argued that you've 'accepted' responsibilty for the whole of that side so think carefully before you come to a decision.

If you want to do it, do it - if you don't, stuff them.

VelvetSpoon · 15/04/2016 17:38

Well it's pissing it down here so I'm certainly not doing it when I get home tonight, or tomorrow if the weather's still like this.

I will have a look for the deeds though, I know i have a copy somewhere.

I'm still massively irritated by it though, especially the stuff about their children. Do they expect me to care? Hmm I'm really not sure what purpose they thought sticking a note to my door would achieve...

OP posts:
Jelliebabe1 · 15/04/2016 17:46

Just sellotape a note to their door saying your not even sure which side was yours but you had been going to do it this weekend just to keep all the rubbish from drifting in which is surely a bigger safety issue. You may now find yourself busy!

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