Would this bother you? Mil and baby

[Squashysbrother]

My 10 month old says a few words, mama, baba, gaga. He's yet to say dada. He doesn't have a clue what he's saying he's just making sounds. I talk to him and encourage him to make all sounds.

Every single time we see mil and he says mama, mil says "dada", and keeps repeating and repeating "say dada, dada". In a tone of voice like "no, not mama, dada".

Hmm... after 9 months of my ds screaming shouting 'mum' in the middle of the night I'm the one saying 'shout daddy!' To him. However, your example would piss me off as it's such an unnecessary pettiness.

my mom and ex dps mom had a passive aggressive argument every time dd was with my mom she would try and get her to say mom every time dd was with his mom she tried to get her to say dad

result? her first word was the cat's name

my youngest calls his dad grandad because every time he called his granddad dad he was corrected to say granddad so now everyone is granddad im guessing he feels he cant get it wrong that way!

Thanks. There are other things but some of it would be quite identifying. It is sooo petty, but you know when there's a build up of little things, it's like some in laws think that you had the baby for them? I'm sure that some of you will understand.

If it's death by 1000 paper cuts I'd say something. Honestly - or it'll just ramp up and up and be harder to tackle. If you think there's any possibility she's testing out what sort of thing she can get away with, just say cheerfully "No, she's saying mama. She'll get to dada eventually - no need to rush it. In fact, did you know language develops faster in small babies if you repeat back to them what they've said? Positive reinforcement... Anyway, cup of tea?"

Pull her up on it. 'Why not mama?'

Or just laugh in her face when baby continues to say mama

Don't let it get to you though!

Wouldn't bother me at al, probably wouldn't even notice.

Hmm thought as much

Well, speaking from experience, I would 'gently' pull her up on it every single time she does something like that.

Or do what I did, ie, silently seethe for years until one day you can't keep it in anymore, have a huge freak out and tell MIL exactly what you think of her.

I'd ignore it, but you could tell her that it's not recommended to tell children to 'say' a word - I read a book by a speech therapist which said not to do it.
You're meant to chat away to them and copy their sounds back, not make demands!

my not quite 2 year old bangs on and on about daddy but has never once said mummy.

so I'll sometimes do as your mil does. I hope it doesn't offend dh. it had never occurred to me

Teach your toddler to say "Witch"

Few rounds of "Room on a Broom" should do it

I think the most constructive thing to do is to ignore what your MIL is doing and help your baby learn to associate the 'mama' sound with you- "Are you calling Mama? Mama's here!" and then go and interact with your your baby in some way. I reckon you're doing the right thing in modelling how to talk to your child, rather than treating him like some kind of performing monkey.

Not sure that MIL trying to get the baby to say dada in a bid to 'promote' dad will help much - he'll probably just associate the sound with his grandmother and call her dada.

I think I'd just pick him up & walk away!

Yeah, "pull her up on it"

That's such a good idea.

She definitely is saying/meaning "dada not mama"

Which is it? Is she actually saying it or you've decided that's what she means?

My MIL was holding my dd when she was about 6 weeks old and said to her "mummy, mummy, mummy NO don't say that DADDY, DADDY, DADDY!" Unfortunately it was the straw that broke the camels back. On its own I would probably have let it go but alongside everything else it actually really hurt. Our relationship was strained for quite a while and we're only just getting back on track, now my pnd has lifted and I feel more like myself. Luckily I had a very supportive dh on side. I understand where you're coming from op.

Seriously, have some fun. Talk to your DH and get him to tell his Mum that he wants his children to call him :
Papa, as in the Papa and Nicole tv adverts.
Or a Victorian "Father"
Pop
Pappy
Sire

but yes to the previous poster. Unless it's your DH saying Dada, then it's likely that your Mil will be christened Granny Dada if she keeps this up

My DD's first word was witch. It can be done :)

Seriously, have some fun. Talk to your DH and get him to tell his Mum that he wants his children to call him :
Papa, as in the Papa and Nicole tv adverts.
Or a Victorian "Father"
Pop
Pappy
Sire

but yes to the previous poster. Unless it's your DH saying Dada, then it's likely that your Mil will be christened Granny Dada if she keeps this up

My DD's first word was witch. It can be done :)

Granny dada

Seriously though, I know how petty it sounds. But she is pointedly doing it.

She definitely says "no, dadaaaa, daaada". But literally every time ds says mama she kind of corrects him.

How can you explain a tone of voice, it's like when you correct to say please or thank you.

Great idea tread. How about Pater

It's not as though she actually says "don't say mama". More like "what about dada". As though ds even knows what it means.

Bloody hell mil's really can't do anything right can they!!

Fifa she is excited he is talking, if he was saying dada and your mum was saying to him "say mama" in a similar tone would that annoy you??

Ffs bit Fifa bloody autocorrect

Only you know your MIL and know if this is an attempt to undermine you.
I had a MiL who insisted on DS calling her Mama!!!!. I know she was doing it for a reaction so I above it and made sure I was referred to as mummy.
The funny thing is now he calls my MIL grandma and my mum Mama. My mum never encouraged this, DS just started doing it. It pisses MiL off no end and I think it's hilarious

Their first word is never mama or dada anyway is it? Dd1 was uh oh and dd2 made delightful little piggy oinks to order from about 11 months. Ignore ignore

My MIL did exactly the same with mine,
My advice would be to bite your tongue. However, with my MIL it was the start of years of her undermining my parenting, criticising me and taking her son's side in everything. I always have a tension headache when she leaves.
Good luck