To think that people who call themselves "quirky", "kooky" or "random" should fuck off?

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Add to that people with "eclectic" music tastes.

Fuckers, all of them.

I don't think this has been mentioned yet, but anyone who describes themselves as "fun".

Examples: "I'm so much fun" or even worse "we're a fun crowd"

Whenever someone describes themselves as "mad", "random", "quirky" etc, you can guarantee that they will be very dull but try way too hard to be interesting, resulting in being incredibly annoying.

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Well said friend and I were very close when younger - but have phased each other out over the years- so are really just "friends" of the Facebook variety now.
I'm pretty sure that I wouldn't be cool enough for her to be seen with nowadays. And I just find her very irritating. I feel like screaming "Grow up !!"

ugh ... don't get me started on "foodies". Fuddies more like (nice Scottish term there).

I really like people who are comfortable in their own skin and happy to like/do whatever they want without worrying of it is fashionable or fits in to a particular stereotype. However, in my experience, these people do not feel the need to tell everyone about it or define themselves (as 'quirky', 'wacky', 'eclectic' etc). I think anyone who feels the need to tell you what to think of them 'I'm mad me' is probably dull/irritating and best avoided. A friend recently declared 'You know me, I'm very carpe diem'- in fact one of the most over planned/over thinking people I know.

Similarly I can often respect (if not always like) people who are aware that others might not agree with what they say/do but feel strongly enough to say/do it regardless. The ones that irritate me are the people who sign post unpopular comments with 'It's just my way, I won't change' which I think is code for 'I'm totally closed minded but I've told you that now so that means you can't be offended no matter how bigoted/unreasonable I become.

I once worked with someone who told every new colleague 'I'm like garlic- you can like me or hate me but you can't ignore me'. Fabulous combination of the 'I'm mad me' comments and the 'It's my way' comments. Definitely a tosser.

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Does bubbly really mean 'a bit fat but smiles' ?

I had always thought it meant someone who never shuts up.

Except in job descriptions, where I always thought it was shorthand for, 'Young, female, someone who all the blokes in the office will fancy and who will preferably be up for it.'

Ooo I bet you lot are fun at parties!

"I treat everyone I meet the same from a bin man to a duchess." Well 1) No you bloody don't (unless you count being snide about every single person you meet behind their back as treating them the same) and 2) if you have to make this differential then you obviously make a big thing about people's social standing.

Although I like going on swings. Not because I'm 'quirky' but because I really, really like going on swings. As I'm described as 'bubbly' though I tend to do this when there is no one around to see. I'm claiming the geek label though, I can be a tiny bit obsessive about details and accuracy but my friends are very kind about it.

Aren't we all a mix of everything?

Aren't we all a mix of everything?

Which is why it's so irritating when somebody defines themselves with a single label.

Then some start living up to that label all the time, making them strangely one-dimensional and inauthentic.

What is scary is how utterly utterly wrong some people are in assessing how they come across to others.

My parents have a lovely friend who was a head teacher. Quiet, rather stand offish, thoughtful, very stylish. Yet described herself once as "bubbly". She is still the least bubbly person I have ever ever met. Disconcerting how someone so otherwise intelligent can be so so wrong about themselves. Makes me nervous what the hell do others think of me?!

I was on a secondment to an investment bank once and management kept praising my "calmness". DH and my family were in fits I am the least calm person they know.

Ha! Mrs D - have had that Catherine Tate character in my head all through the thread 😄

I'll add people who start a conversation with "This will make you laugh!" and then go on to regale you with a very very dull anecdote.

Probably because I'm not much of a lol'er anyway and even less so if I feel pressured to do it because if I don't I'll seem ungrateful.

Yes Garlick, that's exactly what I was trying to say but kind of forgot the end of the sentence!

Hope you'll excuse my finishing it, then, MrSlant!

Ooo I bet you lot are fun at parties!

Probably. It's the people who are compelled to self-define as 'wacky', 'zany', 'crazy', etc., that can suck the fun out of a room in seconds with their contrived attempts to live up to their madcap 'personality'.

Oh I agree, but almost anyone seems to be getting in the neck here!

Tinklewinkle - she'd probably get on well with the guy I know who went to a retreat (of course) when travelling and actually REACHED ENLIGHTENMENT. Apparently.

AFAIK it means he shaved his head and started looking fondly at trees.

Live and let live, why should it upset me if describing themselves as such makes them feel good about themselves!

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late 19th century: from earlier feist, fist ‘small dog’, from fisting cur or hound, a derogatory term for a lapdog, from Middle English fist ‘break wind’, of West Germanic origin.

And middle aged women (like my own mother) who refer to their crew as The Girls.

I once had an American friend who always banged on about how ALTERNATIVE she was. This seemed to involve enjoying a holiday to Iceland ("OMG they're all ALTERNATIVE like me!"), dying her hair black and enjoying punk music.

YYY to all of this.

Off to namechange - I know I was watching the cat do somersaults down the stairs at the time, but you lot don't :-)

My absolute pet hate! "You know how crazy I am", "I'm mad", "I'm crackers". No you're actually very dull and boring! 😡😜

Does anyone else have the same thought as me when a person labels themselves in a super-positive 'larger-than-life' way - that they are deeply depressed and heading for a breakdown? I usually feel genuine concern, but at the same time keep my distance to avoid getting caught up in it.

'She's asked me if I was jealous of her spirituality'

Oh my god, the potential