To ask if you cry in front of the kids?

[PricklyHodgeheg]

I'm PMTing, I've had a really shitty afternoon, followed by DP being a complete bellend by text (he's still at work). Now at home in tears and the kids are watching TV (because they just won't stop fighting).

I hate the DC to see me like this but I can't seem to get it together so I'm hiding upstairs. DD is 5 so she'll be asking questions if she sees me upset :-(

Do you ever cry in front of the kids?

I also cry in front of DS. I taught him to show his emotions.

I would feel more comfortable having a stranger smack me in the face than see me cry. It's clearly my upbringing and I don't want my children to be like me.

Yes, very occasionally. My ds has actually made me cry twice - when it happened it gave me an opportunity to explain how what we say can hurt others, so we need to be careful. It was a good lesson in empathy. Most of the time I bite my bottom lip and shake things off, but these were bad days for me and he needs to know mums have feelings too that can get hurt. I'm only human!

I wouldn't because I found it very worrying when I was a child and had friends whose mothers cried.
I have cried over sad films or books in front of them, but that is different.

I cried when my then 3 year old threw a metal Thomas train in my face - on two separate occasions.

I also cried a few months ago when I dropped my iPhone and cracked the screen My 6 six year old just said 'it's ok mummy we can fix it'
When I cracked it last week again he asked if I was going to cry, I probably would have done as I'd just paid £95 to get it fixed but my dad was there. Now there's no way I'd cry in front of him!

Tell your dp to fuck off sending shitty txts!

I didn't try to hide my emotions from the kids when my granny died, or if we watch a sad film. Things external to them, I suppose. I would try not to let them see me cry over their behaviour(too guilt trippy imo) or that I was going to miss them or was worried about them or something. I am one of nature's criers, though.

Yes a fair few times - watching a sad thing on tv, when I have to tell them off & I feel sad, when I feel sad about something or if I've had a row with DH.

My mum cried in front of me a lot and I wish she hadn't a bit. Showing emotion yes, but when she divorced my dad, and during bad times with my stepdad she cried to us a lot and I found it scary mostly and felt I had to make it better.

I grown up to be a fixer and worry about my partner and friends much more than myself.

I've always held myself in and never cried in front of the kids (oldest is 13 now so that's a lot of keeping the tears in!). I think I perhaps overdid it looking back, but I felt seeing Mum in tears would be really unsettling. But my mum died this year and I actually decided that it was healthy for them to see grief and how much I loved my Mum.

Of course. They need to know that it's ok to express your emotions. Happy, sad, frustrated, angry. All totally healthy and normal.

Yes sometimes.

I don't feel bad because I was very much brought up that emotions were bad and shameful and a sign of weakness and I don't want my kids thinking that

Have cried occasionally. Odd time when I've really hurt myself - like the time last year I fell down stairs. Both DC rushed to help me, which made me sob even harder .

And I remember crying on the phone when my mum told me she'd had a dodgy mammogram. DS was only 2 and was so concerned about me, kept trying to cuddle me.

I think it's normal to show a bit of emotion in front of them.

Have done a few times. I'm an emotional person so no point in trying to pretend I'm not. She's only 2 so she just says "wassa matter mummy?"

Interesting points raised... it depends on why you are crying. About my partner, no I wouldn't let it show and I wouldn't tell them so they did not feel insecure or worried. I wouldn't want them to ever feel my emotions as a burden , or something they were responsible for. Over something like stubbing my toe or about a sad film or book, absolutely. Hope bellend partner isn't making you sad most of the time?

Yes I have done. Mainly when my mum died and sometimes if I see something sad on TV.

I saw my mum cry when I was a child and it didn't disturb me. I remember her bawling when it was the last ever episode of pebblemill and drying her tears on a teatowel - eccentric old bird! And when we watched west side story and when her mum died.