Aibu to want stab myself in the uterus with a spatula

[goddessoftheharvest]

...and possibly get the cat to help with a DIY hysterectomy?

I feel like I'm going mad every month. TTC two years. Periods getting progressively worse since I stopped birth control. It's now got to the point where the cramps start up a week before my period is due, and build up to a climax of fucking agonising

I'm waiting on a gynae appointment. When I say waiting, the list is a mile long, and I'll be lucky to be seen this side of Christmas. I phoned the hospital and checked

As well as the cramps, I have pain in my ovaries that now seems to travel down my leg when particularly bad. I feel nauseous to the point of heaving. When on my period, I have often thrown up/passed out, though not for a while, because I have managed to take the edge of with my cocktail of tablets. It's more the discomfort which is now spreading out over the rest of the month which is making me feel increasingly desperate.

Oh, and I am always really heavy when I am on, bloat to the point where I have actually gained up to 8lbs, and my PMS is off the charts.

I just can't cope with this for much longer, and there's very little that can be done until I get that fucking appointment

I'm so fucking miserable

I had a smear about 18 months ago? Give or take. Everything was fine then. Blood tests fine, my cycles are longer than average but I am ovulating etc.

I wonder would it be possible to go back on the pill for a while, or would that mess up things regarding potential help with fertility? I just need a break. I'm exhausted. I have recurring nightmares about getting my period ffs. It's been two years of this and my entire body feels wrung out

I will make a GP appointment later. Might ask for a different one this time. The other is OK but has some very old fashioned views.

Surely after 2 years, something more should be being done? We first went to the GP after TTC a year, and nothing has really happened. Then I have been back many times since about the periods. I feel we have been fobbed off somewhere along the line.

the title didn't bother me but if you're worried, there's no need to delete the thread OP, just ask MNHQ to edit the title.

hope you get some relief soon

Yanbu, as cats are usually fastidious about keeping themselves clean. Dogs, on the other hand, are terrible at scrubbing in for ops. A spatula wouldn't be my first choice, but needs must

I thought your title was lighthearted and inoffensive. Not sure why anyone would find it distressing.

Sorry, can't really add to the advice already discussed, but hope you get some answers.

Def sounds like endo (speaking from experience). Mine too was discovered through (unsuccessful) ttc'ing, for years I thought I was one of those unlucky women with hellish periods.

I'm in N.I. - I waited a year for the laparoscopy on NHS . The consultant did offer to put me on the pill in the interim but said it was probably counter-productive if I was trying to have a baby (they obviously didn't realise pre-lap' that this was never going to happen - my tubes were completely blocked with scar tissue). In hindsight I probably should have gone on the pill but I was ever hopeful that I would conceive naturally. Unfortunately they can never seem to tell how bad the endo is until they open you up so to go/not to go on the pill is not an easy decision to make.

Wishing you all the best

Thank you all

I wouldn't for a minitue expect or want you to have it deleted it, of course you shoul dbe able to discuss it, - just the title popping up gave me a knee-jerk reaction that's all.

And to DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen - thank's for your suggestion but hiding the thread can only be done once the title has ben read and that was the bit that bothered me, you see?

Never mind, obviously just me - but something akin to crossing my legs times a million and not being able to get the thought from my head - it's hard to explain.

As you were.

There's nothing at all wrong with the title.

You have my sympathy

Oh Tap, snap. I'm in NI too. So it's a thing here then? I'm sorry to hear of your experiences. It's crap isn't it

I've had similar on and off since my teens but fortunately with no effect on fertility. I've had two laparoscopies and had endo treated and it always settled down for a while.
It's recently become unbearable again and I've gone private for everything bar a scan. I'm now booked in for an endometrial ablation as I know we won't have any more Dc.
If it helps I can find my statements and tell you what everything costs. Huge sympathies

Here are the NHS rules about waiting times:
"Non-emergency treatment
For non-urgent matters, you have the right to start treatment within 18 weeks from the date your GP, dentist or other healthcare professional refers you (unless you want to wait longer or waiting longer is clinically right for you). This will be led by a consultant. Within the 18 weeks, you should have any tests, scans or other procedures that you need before treatment starts."

I think that 18 weeks is pretty poor TBH, but is a lot better than you are being offered, which is a disgrace.

Go kick ass!

It really is shit.

I forgot to mention previously, without sounding massively patronising - keep on top of your GP - make sure he/she is taking you seriously. Every time I had my period, which usually resulted in vomiting/fainting in the bathroom, I made an appointment and told them - as a result one of the GPs finally wrote to the outpatient gynae dept. (it's the Grove Wellbeing Centre on York St) and I was seen pretty quickly - now this was only an initial consultation but it certainly sped things up with regards to 'getting the ball rolling'. I was officially diagnosed within a month after that.

I still had to wait for my operation but at least I knew what was wrong with me and could weigh up my options.

How old are you, OP, and do you have any DC already? Quite aside from the pain you're in, the fertility issues really should have been investigated by now....hope you get some answers.

Don't worry about your title; it's fine. People who go on the 'net have to be aware that anything can pop up and blind-side them. It's not possible to be aware of everybody's triggers.

Thank you all so, so much. I've made an appointment with another doctor at my clinic. It is a few weeks from now, but I've waited this long

So what should I ask? If they can somehow fast track me through the waiting list?

Tap, I think a diagnosis would help even mentally tbh. It's hard explaining to the likes of PIL etc why I'm not able to attend X family event, because of my period, but actually it's not just a period, but I haven't got a diagnosis, but but

I don't see why going privately would affect your position on the NHS waiting list. Can anyone in the know, confirm this for the OP?

My dad does a combination of private and NHS, has the procedures with NHS then follow up appts with the same surgeon at his private clinic.

Glad you have a appointment sorted. I had terrible problems around 10 years ago too and it took months of pestering to get anywhere. GP just wanted to put me on the pill but I was adamant I wouldn't as it would just mask the problem. Had all sorts of blood tests, smears, internal exams etc and eventually they only realised there was a problem when they gave me a scan as a last resort. Straight away they found a massive ovarian cyst. I needed a laparotomy and 6 weeks off work. Afterwards was amazing. No problems at all!