Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think if someone is dead their spouce should not hijack the dead persons twitter

20 replies

hettyGreek · 11/04/2016 12:31

twitter.com/lyndabellingham

This is just not on right?

OP posts:
SmallBee · 11/04/2016 12:33

Can't click on the link, but my friend died to years ago and his Mum still uses his Facebook. I'm not judging as everyone handles grief differently but it is chilling every time I get a notification that my dead friend has liked my post.

hettyGreek · 11/04/2016 12:34

That is very chilling, I would of thought that such a practice is banned by social media?

OP posts:
Sallystyle · 11/04/2016 12:41

He's just a complete twat isn't he?

If it was anyone else I wouldn't judge, but with his ghost comments, well I have no nice words for him.

Jw35 · 11/04/2016 13:02

My sister died 11 days ago and my brother has put a couple of posts up in her fb with funeral details and thanking people for flowers etc. I think it would be weird to use the account to like other people's posts though Shock

NotGonnaAnswerThePhone · 11/04/2016 13:04

Wow, using her Twitter to sell his book. What with the other news he has been in today, he sounds like a right twat

juls1888 · 11/04/2016 13:06

Just had a quick look at the tweets on that account.....he isn't coming across very well at all, very grabby.

hettyGreek · 15/04/2016 10:16

Yes he's totally grabby, selling a book and the ghost thing was disgusting.

OP posts:
UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 15/04/2016 10:23

He's a total dick from what I've read about him - holidaying in the sun whilst her children get practically nothing from her estate- surely not what LB would have wanted? And the ghost thing was grim. If LB's ghost came back she's probably want to haunt him to death, not have sex with him Hmm

Birdsgottafly · 15/04/2016 10:33

I think this is a good example of why you need to set your wishes out.

I reply on a lot of Will/Gaurdian making threads, because I've seen how people change, when left with an inheritance and/or power over burial etc. I'm 48 and I've worked in end of life/social care, so come into contact with a lot of families.

I'd like to give some of his behaviour the benefit of the doubt, having been Widowed myself, but the remarks about making love to her ghost, was disgusting.

""I think it would be weird to use the account to like other people's posts though""

I agree. I thanked people on a close relatives account and used it as a way to announce funeral arrangements (and the death after contacting people that I could). I haven't shut it down, yet, but I constantly deactivate it.

RebootYourEngine · 15/04/2016 10:34

It is all a bit strange isn't it.

SexLubeAndAFishSlice · 15/04/2016 10:45

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

GirlOverboard · 15/04/2016 10:54

I'm sorry but I do not like this man one bit. It's fine to keep a Twitter account updated after someone has died. But to actually hijack the account and use it to post holiday selfies and hair transplant updates is deeply disrespectful. What if her sons want to remember their mother by reading through some of her old tweets? They're going to be faced with this creepy man in his ridiculous suits, which can't be very nice for them.

AlwaysDancing1234 · 15/04/2016 11:01

I think posting messages to the deceased FB or Twitterfriends about funeral arrangements etc is fine but to actually hijack the account and post your own rubbish is despicable.

Kit30 · 15/04/2016 11:02

TBF everyone deals with grief differently. MP's tweets don't seem to be gratuitously offensive in themselves. Seems he's written the memoir for charity which can't be a bad thing. Not sure if the twitter followers are his or his late wife's- probably hers for the most part - so that's a lot of potential for marketing the charity he's supporting.
Yes, keeping someone else's account going may be distasteful to some, but if it was closed down would LB's family lose out. I mean, would all her tweets be deleted too?

bungmean · 15/04/2016 11:07

what's the ghost thing?

LagunaBubbles · 15/04/2016 11:12

So sorry for your loss Jw35 Flowers

Andrewofgg · 15/04/2016 11:12

We know what she wanted; she made a will. Her children are fighting it under the Act of 1975 saying it is "unfair" but that it "isn't about the money". Sure it isn't.

That Act should not be available to healthy adult DC at all, but that is another issue.

Birdsgottafly · 15/04/2016 15:28

""what's the ghost thing?""

He said that her ghost appeared to him and they made love.

tinyterrors · 15/04/2016 16:49

I'm another who thinks posting funeral arrangements is a good idea, even spouses don't always know all of each others friends and it's a good way to let them know arrangements.

Posting wither as the other person is wrong. As for trying to sell a book, I have no words, it's disgusting and the tweets should be deleted.

JuneBuggy · 15/04/2016 16:54

WTAF! Shock

Agree that posting funeral details is appropriate, but using it to sell your book and discuss your "travels" with random internet strangers is beyond odd.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread