is this a professional way to behave?

[dangerouswomen72]

So I'm ringing round getting quotes for something regarding buying a house.

My husband calls me. Someone I spoke to has FB messaged him saying his wife (me) has just called for a quote. They are just Facebook friends not sure how they know each other maybe school.

AIBU not to want to deal with a person that does that?

Unfortunately a good quote.

The niggly feeling would be about her discussing private details with other people if you don't have a barrier of professionalism.

i spoke to your wife today = private details

today i learned

YABU.

You're getting something done to your house, not a medical procedure! Just a friendly conversation IMO and perhaps trying to gently push her case to get the contract.

Definitely an over-reaction.

I find it strange and alarming that the default mindset for some is well you could have put them in danger,

This would be annoying because you're getting quotes to find a professional on the basis of the best quote - which is not necessarily the cheapest. She is then trying to undermine you by going to DH & effectively saying 'give the job to me because we went to school together '. Doesn't matter that she didn't actually come out with the words as it was undoubtedly her intention. From her point of view she's using her contacts to get more work, it's annoying to you because of the implication that DH would let it influence who got the work when you are the one getting the quotes together.
So YANBU to be pissed off, but you shouldn't let it influence which quote you choose.

I think it's unprofessional. So YANBU.

You contacted them for a quote, so they contacted your partner via social media to check that it was you? Weird.

We needed something doing to the house - my friends DH is a professional in the field so I called him and he said he be round later that afternoon. I waited in all day for him, I called him later to see if he's got held up, he said he was on his way. I then get a whatsapp from his DW, my friend, saying he would be coming tomorrow as he needed to give the DDs their tea. He didn't get the job. That was unprofessional. Either he lied to me or she decided he had something better to do.

My DP & I are in a similar line of work. I'd never answer a work query on his behalf - or contact the customer via social media to see if it was them.

Wouldn't bother me at all. It's not like she's been telling all and sundry and it doesn't sound like it's really personal information... Maybe she didn't even realise until after your call, especially since she doesn't know him that well. It would have been odd for her to call you back to tell you but a few lines on FB to the person she actually knows doesn't seem inappropriate really. I'd actually be more inclined to give her the job - she is less likely to try and rip you off if she feels you're not just strangers IMO!

To all those saying it's an over reaction. I've only posted on here, not said anything to the person. If I had run her back and screamed at her then that would be over reacting.

To be honest it's just my general dislike of what Facebook has done to the world. I guess people think it's ok to bring it into a professional environment. Like you meet someone one and they add you on Facebook.

I think it would have been a better move to say on the phone -is you husband XYZ I think I know him.

I think if it was bought up in the office some people might point out to her what a silly move it was.