To be upset at ds's comment re birthday presents?

[CocktailQueen]

DS is 8. Bday coming up.

Today in a shop he saw something he'd like for bday. I said, no, you haven't got money, put it on your bday list. He stropped.

Then outside he said, there's no point putting things in my bday list, you never get me anything I want for my bday anyway.

We do. He has a party, bday tea, plenty of presents from his list

How would you have reacted?

Background - He has just been on a residential course for his hobby, for which dh took two days out of our holiday to drive him there. He is probably overtired from this course, but we had to speak to him about his behaviour already today.

He's not too young to realise that saying things like that is massively ungrateful and he should count his blessings, is he?? Or am I being U?

Told him how upset I was, took him home and put him to his room for a nap.

We don't encourage "lists" of gifts so I wouldn't have said put it on a list.
I think it's a tiredness issue I would deal with the that and not worry about the comment

Really sure he's not disappointed with past presents!

Have spoken to him, he apologised, he had some quiet time in his room, then we went out and we had a nice afternoon.

Chuh.

Am pretty sure it's the pressure of holidaying with family that has got to me...

I am 35 and I still need a nap.

Why didn't you say "what did you get for your b.day last year?" chances are he wouldn't remember. If he did list s.thing you could say "hmmmm.... and was that on your list?"
the idea being to tease out if he thinks he actually has a point and to let him see he's wrong and learn from it. Or if he's just tired and cranky.

I think everyone, including adults can be unreasonable when they are overtired.

I would have done this face

DD is nearly 9 and this year for the first time has been saying LOADS of things she really reeeeally wants for her birthday. I told her that we'd consider it all but that some things would still be surprises. She agreed and is happy about it as she has always loved the surprises before (or as I say nearer Christmas, 'Santa never gets it wrong does he' - as Santa presents are always surprises).

I do think it's important that presents should be about what the receiver will love (rather than what the giver wants to give) - to some extent that isn't necessarily the same as what they ask for (sometimes what they end up really loving is something they didn't know existed or didn't think to ask for)

I do think it sounds like over tired and grumpiness. And just a lack of tact really too. DD has the odd moment like that, she genuinely doesn't mean to be rude but she has said things that hurt

Need more details. Maybe he's really disappointed with past presents?

Really??

I got naff presents sometimes as a kid. But I pretended to be happy. Even at a very young age I knew anything but would upset my parents. I don't think I was overly mature or compassionate for my age. Is it just that we expect less of our children for some reason?