To leave the clumsy bastard to protect my beautiful things?

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I have been lusting after some gorgeous mini Pip Studio Espresso mugs for ages, but at £8 a pop a little too much for a whim purchase. This week i got some amazing news i've been working really hard for, so i thought i deserved a treat. Got them home, show DH, go to change DDs nappy, hear a crash. DH had managed to drop a mug in top of my beautiful new mugs chipping one within 2 minutes of it being in our house. The big mug he dropped was broken too and they are no longer available to buy.

This brings the total list of things he has broken to:
3 mugs
A large expensive serving dish he broke before we got it in the car let alone home
2 Glasses
2 champagne glasses
A knife
A vintage bureau
3 photo frames
And the following from our wedding china:
1 Small bowl
2 large bowls
A plate

AIBU to LTB, or at least buy him a kids plastic dinnerware set and ban him from using our lovely things?

He also broke deliberately by throwing it into the tip an expensive drinks dispenser and all of our glass wedding decorations. In his defense he was rushing to clear out the garage before our renovations and i couldn't help/supervise because i was stuck on the sofa with a velcro baby. I did have to go on a long walk after i found that out!

he is lovely really just very clumsy, and already hunted down a replacement Pip mig for me

I come from a clumsy family. Family dinners are the stuff of legend- no glass is safe from us. On one particular occasion we managed to decimate 7 wine glasses, two champagne flutes and an attractive serving plate

Now I drink from plastic tumblers at home, insist that I am given the cheapest glass if at a friend's (they all know me well, bless 'em) and have managed to hang on to a complete set of posh wine glasses given to us as a wedding gift by ONLY allowing them out at Christmas, and only if someone else picks them up, washes them and puts them away. Every now and then I open the cupboard door and admire the pretties from a safe distance-and then close it firmly and go to the plastic tumbler cupboard.

We maintain it's because we all grew up in a big house, so aren't used to being confined to smaller spaces. That's our excuse anyway and we're sticking to it like glue

Oh and I also managed to snap the point off the end of my vegetable knife by using it to stab lumps of brown sugar. Although actually, it's turned out to be quite useful that shape...

Agree with Squoosh. And is it just stuff that matters to you that he breaks? Hmm - are you sure it is accidental?

I am extremely clumsy and I think all my DCs have inherited it.

Being honest, it did used to upset me when things got broken until a while ago...I came into the kitchen to find dd1 (who is a teen) crying, she was really upset. It transpired she had broken a plate which had sentimental value for me, she wasn't crying because she was scared she would get in trouble, she was crying because she knew thought I would be upset at the loss of the plate.

I realised then that actually, yes possessions are precious but they're not as precious as people. Nor as important. I felt worse about the fact that my DD was upset than the plate was broken. It really taught me a lesson, tbh.

I would be annoyed if I thought he was doing it deliberately or didn't care or realise that he was causing you upset. But if they are genuine accidents and he is remorseful (sounds like he is) then I would think - which is more important to you - possessions or DH?

Dd1 managed to smash all 8 of our dinner plates at once, by piling them up to put away then dropping the whole pile on her foot. I didn't make any fuss at all about the plates because I needed to take her to a&e. The doctor teased her somewhat when we explained how she'd hurt herself.

We now have very cheap and cheerful crockery, all with chips in, but nothing I could get upset about.

DH is always breaking things. Only kitchen stuff though, weirdly. All our mugs are chipped, we don't have a single full set of anything. Whenever he breaks something (not just chipped but actually broken) he is always too scared to tell me so he just leaves it on the side for me to find. Don't know why he's scared, I've never truly lost my shit with him. I'm just quietly resigned to never having anything nice :(

Glad to see i'm not the only one with a butterfingers DH. londonrach loving the glue attempt in pic 2!

I say they are my things, but they are really ours, he honestly isn't doing it deliberately, and i wasn't serious about LTB . May have been serious about the plastic cups though. But i designed the house and therefore most things in it, hence referring to them as mine. (He choose the garden in case you think i'm being unfair)

In his defence 90% of the breakages have been associated with washing up, you'd think he would learn to be more gentle, or dry up instead of creating the leaning tower of crockery on the drainer which inevitably comes crashing down. Thankfully since we got a dishwasher the breakages have been rarer- yesterdays was because the dishwasher didn't air dry snything so the mug he was trying to helpfully put away slipped.

I must also confess i am not immune, i caught my finger in his favourite pint glass the other day and knocked it over, smashing it. It was the only non matching glass so he could have assumed sabotage from little anal me, but he didn't.

It's his only bad characteristic, honest!

Oh gosh this is how dp must feel. I am the worlds most clumsiest person ever.

I now use a specific mug that is unbreakable and do not touch anything fragile that my dp may be attached to. He's never once complained tho.

DH is always breaking things. The worst was we bought 6 beautiful old champagne flutes in a junk market in Provence when we were on honeymoon. The day we got home he broke one and another a week later and another later in the year. Unbelieveable!
However, the next summer we were back in the south-west this time and he managed to find 4 exactly the same in an old house sale. He bought them as a surprise. he has since chipped one so we are down to 6 again. He is not allowed to touch them any more.