I think I may be but keep with

[badonkydonk]

DH and I are currently renovating a house (completely renovating). I will admit he has been the lead on it and I've laboured for him in the main I.e. Removed rubble, he's made holes and I've filled / skimmed them. Recently, I've been working as bloody hard as him, re-wiring, working on the plumbing. I know these are noddy jobs whilst he does the more complicated tasks though.

My AIBU is that whenever a tradesman comes to quote on stuff we can't do all I hear is, "when I did this" "when I did that" - I wouldn't mind but the areas he referred to, I had done all wiring and first fix. All I want occasionally is a "when we did this". Annoyingly it's because I don't like the tradesmen we have in to think I've done fuck all to help when I spend every waking hour just as filthy as DH is.

I really don't think he does it on purpose but should I say something?

To confirm, I don't mind him taking the glory as its deserved but as an observer it made me look like a lazy cow who lets him do everything without me even getting close enough to break a nail! Many nails have been broken!

Yes, you should say something. It's disrespectful of your hard work.

You could say something in a jokey way, but he's probably not doing it on purpose. If he doesn't take the hint though then I'd tell him properly!

Does he use WE - as in - we need to get milk - or we need to wash up?

IE to him We means you?

Sally - no, not at all. Should 'we' cut the grass generally means he'll cut the grass and I'll do the borders etc.

Thanks to the 2 first replies - I mentioned it and I do think it was a slip of the tongue. Crisis averted so I feel horribly silly now. I'll blame hormones.

Thank you