To think that people who want to sleep can go to bed?

[chemenger]

On holiday in a holiday house, seven of us. One living room. Mil has just come back from an outing and settled down on the sofa for a sleep. So now the rest of us have to tip toe round probably for the rest of the afternoon. I am partial to a snooze from time to time but I would rather do my snoring and dribbling in private. I understand that sometimes people fall asleep unintentionally but it just seems odd to deliberately settle down in the only public room. Is this just another way that I am out of step with the world or is she being odd?

howabout

I agree -. That's the message I got when I was a child. it's funny how it's rude to be by yourself for a bit when in family company, but not rude to fall asleep and snore in front of everyone

YANBU. Very selfish of her.

I wouldn't tip toe around either. As you say, she has purposely decided to have a nap in the only living room not just nodded off. If she is limiting where the rest of you can sit, someone should gently wake her and suggests she would be more comfortable and it would be quieter for her, if she went to bed for a little nap.

Why tiptoe around? I wouldn't. I never even tiptoed around my DDs as babies when they had daytime naps.

She must realise that if she nods off somewhere as public as the sofa during the day she cannot expect silence from everyone else in the house. She cannot hijack everyone else's day like that, so don't pay it any attention.

If she is in the habit of commandeering the entire sofa for her nap and leaving little space for anyone else to sit then tell her about it, or make sure you and the kids have got there first and are watching a loud film together.

Dh is prone to falling asleep in the chair. My mum takes it as a compliment when he's at her house - it's good that he feels comfortable and isn't on "guest" good behaviour iyswim

My Dad dozes off on the sofa whenever he visits. He always blames the sea air.

We don't tiptoe around and long as he's not hogging the whole couch I leave him to it. My Dad has been known to fall asleep in a restaurant and at my brother's wedding reception, so noise doesn't seem to bother him

Does she expect you all to tiptoe around or is that coming from you, you haven't made it clear. I only think it would be a problem if she did.

Don't tiptoe around her and if she's taking up all of the space, then gently wake her and point out to her she might be more comfortable in bed.

We had to wake her up to go to the pub in the end. Later on she complained she'd been cold on he sofa so I asked why she hadn't gone to bed. She thought it was nicer to keep me company in the living room than to hide away in her bedroom . I've said she would be much more comfortable in bed and not to be concerned about me!

Just carry on as normal. My dad falls asleep like this but we just carry on. He then wake up x minutes, hours later and continue talking etc as never been asleep.

"Keeping you company" while she's asleep? Okaaaay.

I would do this! There is nothing nicer than drifting off to sleep, in and out of consciousness, with lots of noise in the background. Better than a solid sleep in a quiet room as that would affect going to sleep that night.

That was your chance to say "no you're not keeping us company as you're asleep and it means we don't feel free to talk normally and enjoy ourselves. If you've decided to go to sleep we'd rather you went to bed so people who aren't tired can continue socialising."

"and can sit on the sofa"

I wouldn't have woken her up to go to the pub and would have just gone and left a note.

My dad used to have a nap when he got home from work, and we kids were supposed to tiptoe around him making no loud noises with our playing. Used to piss me off, why couldn't he go to bed? I do sometimes have a nice nap on the sofa but only if there's no one else around.

As the conversation came up, it would have been easy to say that it would have been better for her to go to bed so that other people didn't feel that they had to be quiet. Why skirt the issue and still not resolve it?