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AIBU to be freaked out that my baby sleeps through

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ammature · 04/04/2016 10:29

This is not a stealth post I'm a first time mum to a wonderful 7 week old baby boy. He's just so good. Last night he slept from 11-6am I've not done anything in terms of routine sleep training bla bla ive just been very responsive to him. Holding him and boobing to sleep etc. He's ebf. Is this ok?hes gaining weight as far as I can see since last weight check and is very happy and content. He never really crys much and is smiling now too. I'm just worried that maybe he is going too long without a feed. For the first time yesterday he puked up milk. I kept a close eye on him though and no temp and was in a good mood.went to bed at 11pm At 6am I took him into bed for a feed and he didn't have much at all. Went back to his cot until 7.30 and then had a bigger feed and cuddles and chats with dad. He's then had another sleep and I've just given him a short feed and he's sleepy again. I'm just concerned his sleeps are more frequent and longer and feeds shorter. Is this ok? Normal? I'm worried that he is perhaps missing feeds? Also I had a bit of spotting yesterday, could it be my period returning? Thanks for reading

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WannaBe · 04/04/2016 11:12

I am waaaaay past that stage in life, but I am always a bit that a poster can't talk about a baby which sleeps through without encountering some bloody judgement from somewhere. So much so that a poster feels anxious that her baby has slept through.

OP, it is actually normal for babies to sleep through, we only hear about all the ones who don't because sleep deprivation is a bitch so it's far more likely that someone will post here for advice re lack of sleep than to talk about their sleeping baby.

As a baby I never woke up for a night feed - ever. My mum contrasts me with my sister saying that she was glad I was the youngest because if she'd had me first then my sister (who was not so keen on the sleep-through philosophy) would have come as a bloody shock to the system. .

My DS slept through once at five weeks and I woke up horrified and terrified that something had happened to him - obviously it hadn't. and then he slept through from nine weeks and never looked back. No four month regression, nothing. It's not smug to suggest that some babies actually do sleep through.

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ammature · 04/04/2016 11:15

I'm now ignoring pearlymum. Ridiculous. What are the symptoms of over supply? I don't leak never have, I was advised to pump in hospital and initial week or two as milk didn't come in til day 5 or so. I've only been very engorged the once I recall. I get about 1 Oz when I pump for ten to fifteen mins but have never got more then three Oz. He was 8.6 born and was 11.3 at last weigh in with HV that was at week 6 so gaining well and lots of nappies. I was worried because he was jaundiced in hospital and very lathargic, had to top up etc etc and we were quite anxious about him. It's clear that he's alert etc now but I guess we still have that little anxiety.

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ammature · 04/04/2016 11:18

Thanks for the supportive and informative comments it's very reassuring. We were genuinely delighted but also a bit oh dear as he didn't even really want boob when he grizzled at six I just fed him out of instinct before he kicked off he prob would have stayed down if I had left him. Thinking about over supply would that explain him throwing a lot up yesterday? It was like he over fed TBH

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scarednoob · 04/04/2016 11:21

I was the same as you when DD was 8 weeks.

From about 4.5 months, she decided to ask for more feeds at night and that 4am is play time... Make the most of it for however long it lasts!

scarednoob · 04/04/2016 11:23

As for the throwing up, sometimes babies just throw up. Lots of Muslims and don't worry about it unless he seems poorly!

scarednoob · 04/04/2016 11:23

Muslins, sorry. Stupid autocorrect!

BlackMarigold · 04/04/2016 11:31

Fairly normal for a 7 wk old to sleep eight hrs.
If baby younger can sometimes be the first sign of a problem. Friends baby was sleeping all night at 4 weeks and generally a very "good" baby and she was pleased. Then at 8 month check had to be referred to paeds for developmental delay.

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ammature · 04/04/2016 11:34

That's scary black any other symptoms?

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QueenOfTheHighCs · 04/04/2016 11:37

Mine both slept 11-7 from 8 weeks. I fed them very regularly throughout the day which meant they were fine to go through the night. Enjoy it. We never had any sleep regression so don't let people make you feel bad! I still have great sleepers 4 years on!

BertieBotts · 04/04/2016 11:37

Definitely within the realms of normal! My response is exactly like vvviola's :)

FWIW DS is 7 years old now and doesn't have any delays.

backwardpossom · 04/04/2016 11:43

Be grateful! DS (my first) was the complete opposite. So much so I was scared to have another. DD came along and pretty much slept all day and night. They're all different, enjoy it while it lasts :)

Noodledoodledoo · 04/04/2016 11:48

My little girl did the same from 7 days old (12-7) - we didn't sleep a wink and was advised by midwife to wake her every 4 hours as she had lost a bit too much birth weight.

She gained her weight again pretty quick after I increased her feeds (also ebf but never showed cues so I put her on a bit of a every x hours regime for a few weeks) and it was impossible to wake her! Stripped to nappy and sat up she would just snore away!

She has continued to do this and is now 18 months old, only disturbed nights we get are due to colds, coughs etc. She loves her sleep! I dream fed her at 11pm till about 7/8 months but then stopped as on a couple of nights I didn't she still went through.

Weight has maintained on her percentile pretty much since about 10 weeks consistently (apart from a blip around weaning and not crawling when we went up a bit too much!)

Enjoy but do not tell anyone in real life - two responses I got were either lots of sarcastic remarks from other mums at nct who had non sleepers or oh your second will be a nightmare!

I still had sleepless nights as spent a good few months having to express about 4 am or risk waking in a very wet bed!

LaurieMarlow I had huge oversupply issues - our spare freezer we got for batch cooking was full of breastmilk!

Enjoy but practice the sympathetic looks and keeping mouth shut routine! Sleep regression didn't hit here either so its not a given.

I am not smug - we did nothing except produce a baby who loves her sleep!

Noodledoodledoo · 04/04/2016 11:50

No developmental delays here as well - on a par with all other babies I know - some things earlier/later than others but nothing to raise concerns at all.

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ammature · 04/04/2016 11:55

I agree about not saying anything hence coming here, we meet for coffee each week and the girls already comment on how content he is. I don't want to be one of those mums. My good friend asked how he slept at one week and I said good, she made a Gun shooting me motion . I'm
Already saying our next is destined to be a nightmare. I've just pumped for about a half hour and got 40ml so don't think I have oversupply?

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Lifeisontheup2 · 04/04/2016 11:56

All my 3 are grown up now, 2 have got good degrees and jobs, (so no delays) the only one with some issues (high functioning ASD) was the latest to sleep through at 12 weeks.

53rdAndBird · 04/04/2016 12:11

If he's doing fine and you're doing fine, I wouldn't worry about oversupply. Also don't worry about developmental delay just because he's sleeping 7 hours. Basically, don't waste your good sleep time worrying!

(Mine slept 7 hours at 7 weeks, is fine and healthy and developing normally, and alas has been a horrendous sleeper from 13 weeks to 2 years.)

KathySelden · 04/04/2016 12:20

My DD was the same and still in at 16 weeks. I panicked about her so much in the first couple of months because everyone was saying how it was unusual and how I was lucky because she rarely cried, slept through and was very good ( BTW I think all babies are good just different). I think that no matter what you worry. If they were up all night and cried a lot you would worry. If they were somewhere in between you worry. It's just being a new mum, if the health visitor and midwife are happy then I think your ok. Enjoy the sleep. Oh and I have OK have a lot of milk, I have to express every morning so maybe there is something to your theory.

PrimalLass · 04/04/2016 12:48

I remember feeling a mix of relief and sadness from missing them the first time my babies slept through.

TheSolitaryWanderer · 04/04/2016 12:56

Mine both slept through by 6 weeks and fed well. It's fine, it's a lucky roll of the dice.
But you are right to be careful not to tell others, because responses like pearlymum's are the norm, as are dire warnings about the shit hitting the fan and karma biting you on the bum. It's sad that people just can't be happy that your family are having an easier time than others.
11.3 is a child with a big enough stomach to hold a decent feed, and your milk suits him well if he's thriving.
Enjoy, be happy and don't get stressed about the negativity.

megletthesecond · 04/04/2016 13:01

Yanbu. DS slept 7 - 7 from 12 weeks old, it was weird. He's 9yrs now and still a champion sleeper.

His little sister has made up for it though.

JocastaFarquhar · 04/04/2016 13:20

You might not have over supply. When DD started waking for feed again (normally at about 0100) she definitely needed a full feed. If this happens to you your body will adjust. Also, feeds for me were 40 mins at their shortest when DD was over a year and 1 hour at the longest so they might not end up as quick as you think. I got quite used to sitting around!

BertieBotts · 04/04/2016 13:44

I didn't have oversupply.

DS went for a nap today at 12.30 and was most unimpressed to be woken up at 2pm. And he's 7 So, you know. Some babies just like sleeping and don't see the point in waking up.

Just enjoy it. No need to worry about whether it will last or whether she will be delayed or if you have oversupply. Just chill and enjoy the sleep If any of those things DO happen, you can't do anything about it anyway, what will be will be. I promise you will love her through whatever life throws at you.

Thurlow · 04/04/2016 13:51

dire warnings about the shit hitting the fan and karma biting you on the bum - Oh, definitely. DD is gone 4 now and we've not had anything that MN would convince you is common: sleep regression, teething nightmares, terrible two's, threenagers... I don't mean she's an angel (anything but somedays ) but people do only post online about things they are struggling with or unsure about, people don't tend to post when things are going well. So some kids are generally ok for long periods.

Of course, we'll probably get the teenager from hell or something, but just because one thing goes well doesn't automatically mean that something else is going to go horribly wrong. Fingers crossed you've just got a sleeper.

Noodledoodledoo · 04/04/2016 14:27

Doesn't sound like oversupply to me either - I could leak up to 60mls from the other side whilst feeding!!

Enjoy it - am currently pregnant with no. 2 so time will tell if we get our payback with this one!

DixieNormas · 04/04/2016 14:49

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