If I am being UR, then I give up

[Shannith]

DP is chainsawing trees at the end of our lane. So it's dangerous and he can't hear anything. He left all the house doors and gates open. My DD, aged 4 made a run for it to find Daddy and ran down the road, which though quiet still has cars on it.

I sprinted after her and shouted at her to stop. Apparently I am in the wrong.

I just can't compute this and am seething.

I am no helicopter parent, but I don't put my child in danger. She is 4, not 14.

If she got hit by a car that would be worse than being told off.

I don't think I'd calm down until he apologised and promised to be careful.
If there was a next time he might be looking at supervised contact.

If your DH keeps putting your Dd in dangerous situations , it's time to have a word with him. The fact that she has come to no harm in his care is probably more luck than judgement.

Cheers ILostIt you might find this book interesting. It's all about how we react differently with the animal instinctual side of our brains verses the rational side.

That book may help me to understand my chimp of a husband.

YANBU and he is beyond careless in his approach to DD.

Sad to admit I have a strong chimp. the book helps me keep him in his box.

Another dismissive defensive money making book by a bloke then

Yanbu by a long shot. Even though nothing happened that doesn't erase the potential for a fatal accident. I think he's deflecting.

What possible justification has he for telling you off for telling her to stop running down a road?

I actually think my dh's more of a silverback gorilla.

All I can think is that wielding a chainsaw makes him feel all manly so he took offence to you (understandably) shouting at him in the street as it was immasculating. Men are twats sometimes.

You need to be able to trust him with your dd's safety. I understand your frustration.

URNBU but need to remember that men are never wrong!

Given the additions info, that he was supervising, then started sawing and didn't tell you or bring her back in and shut the doors YANBU. Apologies for earlier post. In those circumstances he'd be toast.