First off let me start off by saying that I am, by nature a very sensitive person so I'm aware that I might be reading a little to much into this but I can't help feel upset.
A while back I met a friend through another friend I've known for years (if you get me) but I've been trying to distance myself from this person due to the way she acts, the inappropriate things she says and her nasty and rather hypocritical views she has of other people and their circumstances.
Anyway this person hasn't got the hint and has started popping by my house unannounced when usually we only meet up if our mutual friend is there too. I decided not to let her in and we had a cup of coffee and a chat. It's not long before she gets to rambling and is insulting people, this time it was sahm's.
I'm currently a sahm to my three children and have been for the last two years. I suffered terrible bullying in my last job and I've now been diagnosed with mild depression. Although I do everything for my children, ie take them places, do arts and crafts, do your usual school runs, take them to the after school activities etc etc but I'll admit some days are a struggle. So this "friend" starts whittering on about the fact she works so hard (she works 17 hours a week) how she wants to set a good example to her children and that she couldn't just sit at home on her arse every day doing nothing. Oh and that her kids miss out on nothing because she chooses to work and not be on the dole.
She seemed to ramble totally unaware of what she was saying and to who she was saying it to, but surely she knew I'd be offended. She finally left but what made it worse was later on last night she went on Facebook and put on this big long winded status basically bigging herself up for working and that her kids have the best of the best because she chooses not to be lazy.
Now I can't be 100% sure obviously but surely this was a dig at me. The ironic thing is my "friend" is a total liar and lies on a regular basis hence why i'd decided to distance myself from her. She portrays herself to everyone as this struggling single parent to her three children but that's not true. She is in a long term relationship with the father of her children but they decided between them that he should move to his father's house so that she could claim benefits. Now this isn't a bash at single parents on benefits so please don't accuse me of that, it's just the facts.
I'm aware that because her partner actually moved out (well he moved his belonging out) she might be able to get away with it (she has so far) but morally at least she's a hypocrite for saying the things she does. She wouldn't be able to to afford half of the nice things she gives her kids through "working hard" if she didn't have this scheme in place. Her partner is on a low wage and before he "moved out" they didn't do anything as a family as they couldn't afford to but suddenly now they're having days out every week, going on nice holidays etc. Like I said please don't get at me, I'm just saying it how it is and I'm also not jealous before anyone accuses me of that. I just feel aggrieved by this person and find it hypocritical that she dared to have a dig at me and all other sahp's for "sitting on our arses doing nothing" yet she works the least hours possible in order to claim the maximum amount of benefits, that she knows she shouldn't be getting as she is still in a relationship with the father of her children, who by the way works full time. So tell me the truth Aibu here?