Posting for advice as I think my judgement is off. Back story is that this girl I work with has real form for saying rude things to me. She asked me last week if I was wearing a maternity dress (I'm not pregnant) and very often says things like "you look tired" or "are you Ill? You look ill. Haven't you got any make up on?" Once she said "that's an interesting outfit" I said thank you and she said "I don't like it, it's a bit young for you" this was last year. I was 29.
For this reason I don't know if I'm being a bit over sensitive. So, I've been trying to maintain civility with her despite her being rude on other occasions about other things (plus her borderline bullying of another colleague, I've heard her say she's too fat and shouldn't dress the way she does). She is obsessed with weight and has a real obvious dislike for some of the teenage girls we work with, often commenting that they are stick thin and how unattractive that is.
Anyway; She is going on holiday next week and was saying that she doesn't have any bikinis/holiday wear. We were the same size but I've lost weight over the last three months as I've been training very hard (5 times a week) so have dropped at least one dress size. We are both "blessed of the chest" and so I offered to bring her some bikini tops and cover ups. She hinted towards me offering her the bikinis in particular but as she is very chesty (E cup at least) more so than me, I wasn't sure if they'd be too small, cup size. However I just brought them in anyway because she clearly wanted me to offer.
She's now texted me that she can't use them as "they are too big at the back". It's blatantly obvious that due to the size of her boobs and the fact that she is definitely 1 or 2 dress sizes larger than me that this just can't be true (can I just add that i do not care what other people weigh I've only added that as it's relevant). I think she's just trying to insinuate that I'm "fat" and is trying to hurt me. It has really annoyed me as I was trying to do her a favour. It's kind of the straw that's broken the camels back and I feel really bloody pissed off.
So: Am I being totally over sensitive because of her bitchy nature in the past? Or do you agree that it's just bloody rude to tell someone their stuff was too big for you?
I know this is a total none problem, but I'm just really angry thinking that this girl is going out of her way to make other people feel shitty. On the other hand could this be that I am really overthinking this?
Disclaimer: first world problem.