AIBU to not know whether to scream or cry?!

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Booklover123 · 02/04/2016 11:54

Ds,20 back from uni for Easter hols, had a good time, lots of socialising etc is so dismissive with me. Just now ds was using my I pad and I said mind the charger wire , don,t pull it as could break! oMg what a fuss was made, huffed out, said I was unreasonable and I have driven him out of lounge! And not going to cook me lunch now as he was planning to for the two of us! He is soooo charming to everyone else. And I thought this stage was over!

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Birdsgottafly · 02/04/2016 12:06

It should be well over, he's disrespecting you.

The solution is that he can't use your stuff and don't make him meals.

Tell him straight how petty he is being and he should be growing up, by now.

It doesn't have to be a row.

Savagebeauty · 02/04/2016 12:11

Tell him if he doesn't respect you, he isn't welcome to come home.
I had this with DD the first weekend she came home from uni ......told her that I wasn't a hotel, was not going to put up with rudeness and suggested she spend the Xmas break with her dad if she couldn't behave .

SleepyBoBo · 02/04/2016 12:24

On the front of it, yes he's being very rude - if that's how he wants to behave, perhaps he should stay in halls during the holidays.

However, I remember coming home from Uni for breaks and feeling a bit out of sorts. It's easy for both sides to be unsettled as being at home feels like being a child again, after a taste of independance. Behaviours can regress (on both sides), my partner hasn't been home for more than a night for years to stay because he realises he becomes his arsy teen self when there.

Is there anything going on? Is he writing essays/revising/dissertation? Depending on what year he's in/what he's styding, stress may be coming out in the wrong way as well. The spring/summer term of uni is always the toughest.

Patapouf · 02/04/2016 12:27

Why are you speaking to your 20 year old adult son as if he's a child. Is he not capable of making sure he doesn't break a charger?

I wouldn't bother coming home from uni if I was going to be treated like that quite frankly,

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Booklover123 · 02/04/2016 12:30

thank you for your replies, I thought that I was being petty, but it certainly upsets me. Ds is in 2nd uni year, has important exams next month, but doesn't,t seem to be revising for them! He has a lovely girlfriend, also at same uni, studying for finals.
He has just sent me a text , saying he will cook our lunch!

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