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To think this April Fool's joke is not funny

67 replies

SweetTeaVodka · 01/04/2016 07:56

I'm a member of a "due date group" on the dreaded Facebook. We are all due March/April. One of the (yet to give birth) members has just shared a post her husband made on his timeline announcing the "safe arrival" of their newborn with a picture taken Google. It's had likes and congratulations posted on it.

Am I alone in thinking this is not at all funny? Maybe it's my anxiety disorder speaking but I'd be terrified of somehow "tempting fate" (even though I'm not sure I believe in fate to begin with) and what if something traumatic/the unthinkable happens when she does actually come to have her baby.

I also think the safe arrival of a healthy baby is nothing to joke about when so many people's babies don't arrive safely or healthy.

Or am I just having a sense of humour failure and need to get a grip?

OP posts:

nanetterose · 01/04/2016 08:44

whois

Are you 16?

although my 17 ds uses full spellings

I think you need to dig a little bit deeper. Look for your heart!

Milzilla · 01/04/2016 08:51

'get over their own fertility issues' lol! Just like that hey?

OP they've only done themselves a disservice because this announcement takes the shine off the real one.

WakeUpFast · 01/04/2016 08:52

I agree it's not particularly funny because it's something that will inevitably happen. They're creating a bit of a "boy who cried wolf" situation for themselves. But it's their business so who cares!

I do like April fools jokes between friends and family. My sister and me used to have a "I'm pregnant with triplets" thing going between us for a few years which was a personal joke and we found it hilarious for some reason 😕😕

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 01/04/2016 08:57

whois

It's a big leap from not being amused by a misleading, emotive announcement about a birth, to saying people can't say anything about birth or pregnancy.

Milzilla · 01/04/2016 09:00

I have no dc and have had three mcs in the last couple of years. It would not be remotely funny if I did an April Fool announcing I was pregnant. Especially for my friends and family.

Whois, can you see what Skittles means now? it's just not a funny thing to joke about.

Or is just a joke that fertile people can make!? 😑

Milzilla · 01/04/2016 09:00

*is it just

Caprinihahahaha · 01/04/2016 09:04

Redic?

Really?

NoCapes · 01/04/2016 09:14

It's 'ridic' not 'redic'

NoCapes · 01/04/2016 09:15

Blah italic fail

Notonthestairs · 01/04/2016 09:17

I'm sorry but I think YABU. It's not a funny joke but it's their pregnancy and their baby and really you should scroll past (and roll your eyes.)
I was very anxious when pregnant (with very good reason) but I'd have just thought "fuckwit" and got on with my day (mainly spent worrying).

ForeverLivingMyArse · 01/04/2016 09:22

Lame joke, lane folk.

JuxtapositionRecords · 01/04/2016 09:28

It's not funny at all, and actually makes them look really silly. But it's their life and their baby so I would just ignore.

whois get over yourself.

Chocolatteaddict1 · 01/04/2016 09:30

I agree with whois too.

I struggled with infertility for ten years and I didn't expect people not to use the b word.

Just eye roll op it's not worth getting upset over.. Does fate exist? Are you superstitious? If some thing dreadful happened would you blame yourself because a black cat crossed your path or you walked under a ladder?

EponasWildDaughter · 01/04/2016 09:34

So the joke was meant to be that the baby had arrived on april fools day? Is that it?

My 2nd DCs due date was the first of april, in the end she arrived on the 6th. Loads of babies are born on april fools day just like any other day.

Czerny88 · 01/04/2016 09:34

This attitude that people who suffer from infertility should just "suck up" other people's crass, thoughtless remarks really makes me fume. Would anyone suggest it would be acceptable to take the same insensitive approach to someone who had suffered a bereavement? That it's the bereaved person's fault if they don't find jokes about death hilariously funny and they need to get over their sense of humour failure? Thought not.

"Redic", indeed.

Thurlow · 01/04/2016 09:35

YANBU. Someone on my FB feed has posted a faked scan picture announcing their third baby, which turns out to be an April Fool's. Struck me as a little in bad taste.

It's not awful for anything, but it's just insensitive. Not much different from asking a woman in her 30s outright why she doesn't have any children yet. As in, surely by this age we all know that some people have had terrible losses, some people have been struggling with infertility for years, so it's not the best thing to joke about.

ArmchairTraveller · 01/04/2016 09:35

It's not very funny, but are you happy being a member of the fb group if such a mundane joke makes you so anxious?

ArmchairTraveller · 01/04/2016 09:38

'I can't stand people joking about being pregnant/having babies on April Fools Day. It's horrible for those who are unable to have children - to see people joking about something they can't have.'

The joke was posted on a 'due date group' fb page. That's not exactly insensitive to those unable to have children. Presumably most readers are expecting.
Now, to do it in a group of TTC women would be nasty.

Monkendrunky · 01/04/2016 09:43

Not remotely funny. I'm one of those who had a baby who didn't arrive safely or healthy so I wouldn't be able to hold my tongue on that one!

ouryve · 01/04/2016 09:44

It's not really funny, but I would understand the humour if she was, say, due over a week ago and feeling fed up, though.

It would have been funnier if she posted pics of a baby animal, though, rather than someone else's real baby.

dizzytomato · 01/04/2016 09:45

It's not funny, but then April Fools "jokes" are not funny they are tricks, why people think they are jokes I'll never know. So it's in the nature of April fools, he made fools out of everyone, including himself.
So glad I am abroad where April 1st is just a day like any other. I can't stand April fools nonsense.

TeaOnEverest · 01/04/2016 09:46

Yanbu. Tasteless and tacky

The pregnancy April Fools aren't funny either

LagunaBubbles · 01/04/2016 09:49

Even though it wasn't funny it was posted to a due date group - who are all pregnant.

JuxtapositionRecords · 01/04/2016 09:52

Op said the DH posted it to his Facebook so it wouldn't have just been the due date club that saw it.

ArmchairTraveller · 01/04/2016 10:01

Presumably his friends on FB would share his SOH though.
I'm sorry that the OP is distressed, but it doesn't sound as if the group is doing her much good.
I wonder if the others found it either funny or trite, or if there are more women in the group worried about tempting fate. My grandmother was like that, made my first pregnancy filled with 'Don't tell her we've bought the pram/first baby clothes/found out the sex/been swimming/' as she saw all sorts of things as ill-omened.
OP, let it go and work on trying to minimise your own fears. When are you due?

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