to breastfeed without a cover in front of my family?

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I currently have a 5mo old ebf baby.

I normally cover up whenever I'm out and about feeding my baby because I'm really self conscious but when I'm at home with my family and especially my sisters I feel comfortable to not use a cover.

Today my sister has really upset me (I don't think she meant to) by saying that she finds it weird when I breastfeed and she doesn't like seeing it! She and her partner are currently ttc and she won't consider bf.

I am now wondering if my whole family feel the same way and don't really want to cover when I go to my parents or my sisters house! But I now feel like I will be on eggshells every time my baby needs feeding!

Should I continue on as normal ?? Would I be being unreasonable to do this? Or go to a separate room or use a cover?

Should I ask my family if they're comfortable with it? I just assumed they would be rightly or wrongly!

Every time she's eating from now on, put a blanket over her head.

That^.

She needs to get over it!! It makes me so cross. For goodness sake it's the most natural thing in the world!! People are so weird!

Keep feeding. If your sister doesn't like it then it's here issue.

Onevof the reasons breastfeeding is so hit and miss is people haven't been brought up to realise what's normal!

She's not mature enough to have a baby. Fine if she doesn't want to breastfeed herself, but I would have thought that even if you avoid play groups etc you're still going to see breastfeeding mothers at baby clinics.

Your sister is a twunt..... That is all.

I refused to cover up while breastfeeding the DCs. The Queen herself could've visited and she'd have probably had a good eyeful of breast. It's nothing to be ashamed of, therefore no need to cover it up.

If she finds it weird tell her to cover her head.

I think your sister has a lot to learn. I've never used a cover while breastfeeding. Sorry you have such a silly sister, hope that you have other more intelligent, mature and supportive family members around you also

I'm aware dh family are very uncomfortable with me feeding infront of them. In my own house it was tough, in their house I'd use a different room (nice to get bit of peace and quiet tbh)

Thank her for her observations and tell her that you've been wondering how to tell her that you've been uncomfortable with her noisy eating for YEARS so could she shift her arse into the other room each time.

Oh my goodness, your sister is a twat imo. Tell her to nice if she doesn't like it. Don't change anything.

Nb. Her not wanting to bf is entirely up to her, not for her to then force her opinion on you. I'm sure your not forcing bf on her & respect her choice for any future dc

OP you carry on! By the way I've noticed that what people say before they have children tends to change when they do come along... Your baby is more important and by 5 months old they will be used to a certain way of feeding - starting to put a cover over now will change the routine - and is also bonkers.

Eh she has boobs too? Wtf does she think she is going to see, something different even if she seen a tiny bit of nip?

I feel bad for you, maybe Sis is tiny bit jealous of baby and is expressing it in wrong way? She's totally BU..

I think your sister is being a bit silly hers views will change when she has her own DC but for now keep on BF whichever way YOU find more comfortable.

Fwiw I had the opinion that if people didn't like it then THEY should leave the room in my own home.
If I was out and about I'd sit somewhere out of the way or cover up because I was self conscious.

My sister said "Can't you do that in the toilet?" when I bf my newborn dd at a restaurant at a family meal. Wish I'd asked her if she'd say that about someone feeding from a bottle or suggested she eat her meal in the toilet.

My MIL used to make me go upstairs to feed my 2, so that her holier-than-thou eyes were not sullied. Hypocritical witch

Oh, & that was in my own home.

A cover? That's just depressing to me.

Just do it.

However discrete I am, DS hasn't got the memo. He's a slurper. If I'm on the phone the person sat next to the person I'm talking to can hear him!
People have commented, but meh, what I can do. I presumed they were just making an observation/conversation as opposed to anything pointed and tend to agree wholeheartedly that yes, he is very loud! It's just a baby drinking, what's to object to?

I don't cover his head ever he gets too hot. But you'd have to be gawping to see anything anyway, and my nips are huge. Like dinner plates.

It's your house, if she doesn't like it she can leave.

This is the rule I follow, except with my lovely FIL who doesn't know where to look. Whether in his house or mine I go into another room to spare his discomfort. He's a wonderful man in every way, very good to me, it's the least I can do. I would do the same with my dad.

My DBro's and DBIL have learned to avert their eyes, at least that's the solution they seem to prefer. I don't even notice what my mum/MIL/SIL do, not occurred to me. Actually SIL said the other day "sorry I can't concentrate on what you're saying right now, all I can see is boob. I can't wait to get pregnant and get that huge". I told her to be careful of the law of unintended consequences, specifically the child itself!!

Just tell her you have no intention of covering up in your own home.

It does remind me of a new mums meeting I had with 10 mums when I was the co-ordinator of a national birth charity, one dad insisted on coming along to chaperone his wife and was presented with 10 boobs!
He ended up being extremely good at making tea, but by the end of the meeting he did come in and join in and its just people getting used to things.

My MIL took it upon herself to actually stand in between me and FIL because she didn't want him to have to gaze upon the dreadful sight of me feeding his grand daughter. In my home. When she was 3 weeks old and they'd insisted on coming to stay for two fucking weeks.

RupertPupkin has given the correct response!

As everyone else says, just ignore and carry on.

YANBU. Tell her to bog off.