Is this my wifely duty?

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I'm responsible for the laundry in our house, me, dh, dcx2. This morning I found dh's bath towel with skids on it Not only that, it was hanging to be dried to use tomorrow....boak....

Is it my duty to remove and wash, or ltb?
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Hang it out of the front window.

In defence of men, we do tend to have particularly hairy arses.
I'm not quite sure where I'm going with this.

Unless someone has pubes like bracken I doubt they're a barrier to soap and a sponge. What world do we live in when body hair is seen as a reason not to wash properly.

if it was a constant occurance, then yeah, gross, but apart from that, and if you have decided that youre the one responsible for the laundry, then why wouldnt you just wash it?
Or tell him that he needs to put his towel straight in the linen basket next time himself as it was skiddy and thats not something you need to see. Im presuming its not something that happens all the time?

He clearly didn't bother washing his ass during his shower which is just grim. I thought everyone washed their ass in the shower. Learn something new every day.

Tell him when he gets home he needs to put his towel in the wash because it has shit on it and you're not touching it. Simple as that. If he does it again stab him.

This site always makes me extra glad to be gay. Most of the men that are spoken about on here are revolting.

Just a minor major point, why is his arse still dirty after a shower?

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You've got to be in it to winnit.

I'm with Polly, if its the first time then just deal with it. If its not then speak to him about it.

The smartarse stuff (pun intended) is for if the nice ways don't work.

I did mean to mention in my op that it's definitely NOT the first time it's happened! How come I can see it and he can't?! Why isn't he washing his arse properly?!

Definitely not my towel,we have totally different coloured towels!

Give it to his mum and tell her she still has some parenting work to do

His mum?

I would tell him and show him then tell him he needs to make sure -

A. He wipes himself properly
B. He washes himself properly.

Who has an actual dirty arse getting into a shower? never mind after!
I mean, do people really just walk about all day with poo in their cracks and only think to get rid of it at shower time??

Every time I go to the toilet, I wipe everywhere until completely clean whether I've done a number one or two.

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I can't speak for all but I really don't think some men notice stuff like this and if they do it doesn't wind them up/turn their stomach in the same way.

It's not a wifely duty and it shouldn't be but, It'll probably be you that cleans it in the end no?
I hate it when I have to clean up piss from around the toilet but he won't and we've got a potty training son who I don't want to stand in it so again it becomes wifework even though I don't agree that it should be.

He can see it. He just doesn't care.

Burn the towel.

Seriously YoJesse? Your husband can't go to the toilet properly and pisses on the floor and just says he wont clean it up so it's your job? Why? Why dont you just tell him he will clean it up because it's his piss and it's disgusting? What exactly is he teaching your potty training son?

You can be a good wife without being a skivvy.

YoJesse, have you asked your husband whether he wants your child to stand in piss?

I've tried asking nicely, I've tried asking not so nicely. It's when he's half asleep in the nighttime. I'm the one up with ds in the morning and I don't want my son to step in piss just because I'm proving a point. If he's up I will point it out to him and he'll clean it.

Photograph it and upload it to his Facebook. Tag him and comment that:

1. He ought to have wiped his shitty arse thoroughly BEFORE setting foot in the shower.

2. He clearly needs to learn to shower properly too.

3. Towels are for drying yourself off after the bath/shower, NOT for wiping your arse.

4. You might expect this of a toddler, not a grown man.

Shame him into learning better personal hygiene.

Oh I've just noticed your user name OP

Why are you responsible for the laundry OP?

Boak! Wipe it on his pillow.

Scabby man.

Re the posters who are getting hot under the collar over the sexism by the pp who mentioned giving the towel to 'his mum'. OP might like to try giving it to his dad but I suspect his dad probably has a very tenuous relationship with the washing machine in his own house; probably sees it as his wife's province.

Even in our 'enlightened' age I suspect a great many men still see putting the washing in the machine as women's work.

Dirty laundry belongs in the washing machine and not on the internet - pinched from a friend's FB this morning.

It's gross. He should have his own towel that's a different colour from the others and have to wash it himself. Maybe one of these ones?

He may not notice the clumps of poo on the towel as I would imagine his ass is the last location to be dried.
So it may be that he thinks he has a poo free towel that he is helpfully hanging up for re-use.

Giving him the benefit of doubt is the fairest option, but you must show him what he has done.

If it happens again after he has been shown then maybe its time to listen to the other MNs who have suggested public humiliation/divorce/murder.

ROTFL I really wish I'd read this stream before making myself a cup of tea, just choked on it.

Men relate to pee & pooh in a different way to women, but it is absolutely no reason to leave skid marks on the towels, many years ago I had a boyfriend who left them on the sheets...... As he was that grubby I declined to sleep with him ( I mean, intimacy... Yuk) & gave him his marching orders. Luckily DH is very good in this arena, despite having, what he calls a Brillo pad up his bum......

Oh fuck, LTB.