Mum has always been quite controlling and unreasonable - when I was young she would threaten suicide if front of me blamed me at age 9 for her divorce and tells lies from one family member to another to keep in control and divide and conquer, often changing allegiance. I recently had a falling out with her after cooking a Mothering Sunday meal which she didn't like as I had asked other family members and so was 'taking over' the role of hostess. She is now taking it out on my children,though, and pointedly refused to see them at all on Easter weekend even though Sunday's are a regular thing, saying that she was taking another granddaughter out and buying her things instead! Am at my wits end, as I also think she has been spreading lies and poisoning the relationship between my sister and myself. Am seriously considering just cutting all ties, but she'll definitely disinherit me and kids from half her house - if she hasn't done so already (seriously, she has rewritten her will at least 9 times as she falls out with people so often!). Aibu to tell her that I don't want her contaminating my kids lives like she did mine and just to hell with what she decides to do with her own money? She can be materially generous but she emotionally bankrupt!! Or should I just put up and shut up?