My dp is from a council estate, big family, strong family values. I'm from a small family, with wannabe middle class ideas. My mum has helped us buy our house, much appreciated (and she can afford it) we haven't made a big deal about this to mil as she could never offer the same, but helps in her own way. We make it very clear what she does is appreciated. Ds2 is a difficult boy so mil regularly takes ds1 away for a weekend.
They make me very welcome, but always go out of their way to buy food from marks and Spencer's or waitrose for us, I feel like they are putting on a show for me, trying to impress me.
This weekend she bought him back and dp wasn't here, I offered her and fil lunch and encouraged them to see ds2 but they couldn't get out quick enough!
I try my best to show appreciation, invite them to family events, email and text regular updates as I do with my family (dp is vague at the best of times and doesn't bother doing any of this!) but they always have an excuse.
I just get the feeling that they think their not good enough for me and avoid spending time with me alone. Maybe they don't like me?!
How can I convince them I'm not a snob and I do love them?!