to be annoyed at cousin for just turning up

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I have a 9mo ds and he went to bed at 7 and had just went to sleep when my cousin and her husband and 2 kids came to the house with an egg for him. My aibu is that he hasnt been well and has been unsettled all day so surely it would of been nice to send a heads up they were coming along? They know he goes to bed at this time yet have had all day to come along but chose tonight to. I know i may be being unreasonable but im pretty annoyed

In the age of text etc. I don't get people just dropping in? YANBU

Did they wake him up?

I wouldnt of minded if she had text me and said but to just turn up isnt nice

farrow they did yes

That's not good then.

Try not to let it get to you

Yanbu. I hate people just turning up, even more so right on dc's bedtimes. Not hard to text first so you can get to the door without them needing to ring or knock.

It doesnt help my dog barks when the door knocks which made it worse thankfully he seems to be getting sleepy again so hopefully he will be sleeping again soon

Text and tell how much of a shit it is for you. If they care they understand.

They were doing the "rounds" and didn't think about it, they aren;t nasty bad people, you just need to say "baby" has been up all night or whatever. I personally didn't have a massive schedule and would gladly have visitors.

I wouldnt of minded them coming but just not at bedtime. Ive been in all day and they could of came earlier and spent time with him

Are you doing that on purpose?

Of?

I'm sure you explained that it was past his bedtime and that they could come in for a minute for a cup of tea and then fuck off again.

Is this a serious AIBU? Someone dropped an Easter egg in for your son...how appalling of them. I'm assuming your son slept through the whole thing. Perhaps they've been busy all day and this was the first chance the selfish bastards got to drop off a gift to your son. YABU and massively ungrateful

I'm assuming your son slept through the whole thing

You're assuming wrong. then. OP has said they did wake him up.

In the grand scheme of things, is this really a big deal, OP? Try and get it into perspective.

No it wouldn't really bother me tbh, I imagine after a good nights sleep it won't bother you too much either

Rude on both counts. Turning up uninvited at what is very obviously bed time, and buying a 9 month old baby an Easter egg.

No yanbu. It's thoughtless and ridiculous when people don't consider what other people might be doing and just expect everyone to go along with them. If they had texted earlier and said that was the only time they could come then would you have kept your kid up a bit later to see them?

Perhaps they've been busy all day and this was the first chance the selfish bastards got to drop off a gift to your son.

The 7 year old has been unwell so perhaps the OP has been busy all day and this was her first chance to sit down?

I'm with you OP, I hate people just dropping by. Phone or text first.

Just ask them to text first in future. 7pm is early if you haven't got young kids yourself. Until MN, I wouldn't have thought twice about just dropping in to leave an egg at that time of day. And I wouldn't text if I was literally just dropping something in, rather than visiting for a drink.

But then I find it strange that I can literally walk past my sisters door on the way to the local shops, and that she does not consider it okay for me to knock to give her something. She rarely answers the phone, and takes time to reply to texts, so I can walk past her door, and then have to make a trip out later to drop something by. Seems crazy to me.

Anyone is welcome at any time of day in our house. That means they take us as they are though. I'd have ushered them into the kitchen if baby was just going down and explained. Turn the doorbell off if necessary.