To be stunned by this parenting decision

[MoonriseKingdom]

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/mar/25/i-paid-to-have-my-daughter-kidnapped-experience

Article from the Guardian. Rather an extreme reaction to your DD wanting to be a hairdresser! Wonder how the daughter would tell the story?

This is a very nasty American attitude, not held in the rest of the civilised world. Remember the Baby Discipline Book, where breaking the spirit of a baby was advocated? I've seen an American father punching his teenage son in public, shouting "You think you can go against me? You think you're smarter? You think what you want matters?" and so on. Just for irony, this was outside the AnneFrankhuis.

No way - hairdressing! I glanced at the headline on the app earlier and assumed her daughter had joined a cult or something...

I am at tattoo mum. She'd rather her DS had lost a functionally important bit of his body than had a discreet inking? There's a woman who hasn't coped with a trauma. Like to see her chat to expat & MrsDV.

As far as controlly US Mom goes, I think her idea of a fresh start wasn't the best for her dc and she hasn't the empathy to see that. As a pp said, the stately homes thread is the natural refuge of her DD. The DD who is probably running a class action against the parents who did this stuff :)

I'd say she was a complete disgrace of a mother, but she doesn't deserve the title of mother.

As for tattoomom, overreaction much? I feel sorry for her son!

iona no actually. I know i didn't do things i wanted to do as an adult for a ling time, or take subjects i wanted due to pressue from my parents.

I also hate tattoos with a passion. My own DD has wanted one since she was three and dictated me her letter to Santa asking for a motorbike and a ratta-tatta-too. God knows where it came from as we are not a biker family.

Not long after her 18th birthday she had a small, discreet tattoo of a culturally significant symbol on her lower stomach. It made my heart sink a bit, but I also knew it was none of my business. If that was the worst of her teenage rebellion I could live with it.

Like PPs have said, tattoo mum and kidnap mum are deluded. I hope all the kids are in therapy and can get sorted so they don't hand this madness down to a third generation.

I'm also always amazed that tattoo mum doesn't get that having made a massive hoo-haa about tattoos and blackmailing her son that he must never get one or it would devastate her, she practically programmed him to do it. The poor kid had to have some way of showing her he's his own person and proving to her that she can't actually control him, so what better way?

Jesus. I could maybe muster some understanding for parents whose children have a drug addiction that may kill them but even that wouldn't justify drugging and kidnapping them.
As for tattoo mum, that's the biggest pile of self indulgent drivel I've ever read and totally insulting to people who've lost children.

If I was tattoo mum's DS, I'd be seriously tempted to get Love and Hate tattooed on my knuckles and a skull on the back of my neck.

Tattoo mum is my mother. She has said pretty much exactly those things verbatim to me on various occasions over the 22 years since I got my first tattoo. Cried and wailed and asked how I could do something to deliberately hurt her so badly. Right now, at the age of 42, I'm spending my Easter break utterly unable to relax because she's here, I got a new tattoo last week and someone might slip up and tell her and it will start all over again.

What hurts most is that your mother is supposed to be the one person in the world who loves you unconditionally and accepts you whoever you are. But my mother seems the person least able to do so. I suspect the kids in both these stories would say the same.

Fucking hell I need details of that boot camp.. Do they take MILs from Luton??

SeraOfeliaFalfurrias i feel for you. My mother used to be like this. Thankfully she has mellowed in last few years after we suffered bereavement . She still hates them but is less opinated. We agree to disagree with each other.
She dislikes my dress sense, and i dislike hers!

Lol at boot camp for MILs. I think they'd meet their match with mine.