AIBU to think that accusing this person is pretty disgusting

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Almost six years ago a friend of mine was involved in "car accident " horrendous one with all sorts of consequences running up to now
While ago she received a few nasty emails with some sort of accusations that she at least was involved in ea and sirious afair
The sad thing is that friend actually just started walking and living with out debilitating pain around two years ago
Knowledge of permanent consequences of accident it self is still heartbreaking
for my friend and all those disgusting accusations are very damaging and obviously false
She doesn't really know how to deal with them or how to react

People should really think hard sometimes while acusing someone of something
Friend obviously suspect that everything of that comes from x or y person and considering it any explanations are absolutely hopeless and to personal as well
From a perspective of being a third party in this
It's like accusing person with out legs of plans to go for a run

was

Could the affair have been going on before the accident?

Hoping for a clarification from OP

re-readnig OP, mentions ea - emotional affair - but OP emphasises circs of accident and presumably someone has mistaken offering OP's friend support, for an emotional affair and possibly physical intimacy which would not have been realistic

that hasn't helped a jot has it sorry

OP does your mum know you're posting on mumsnet?

That's pretty much how I interpreted it, leghoul.

I think the only thing the friend can do about nasty, baseless accusations is ignore them, not that it's easy.

I think the op is saying that her friend had a car accident (no idea why it's in brackets though) and was later accused of having an affair, but the op considers her too ill to have had an affair.

I wonder if car accident is in quotation marks because the friend wasn't in a car ie she was run over. Op mentions that she has been walking and living without debilitating pain for 2 years but I take it the accusations are more recent, the op doesn't believe that some one who has been through so much could have an affair not that they couldn't but that they wouldn't because they have bigger things to think about. Often though that is exactly when people have affairs because its an escape from reality for a little bit.

I think your friend should ignore the email.

It's all guesswork, really, as the OP was barely comprehensible.

It's too early for me to even think about getting my head round this.

I've not had coffee either.

I was waiting for that story to end with "... and this is why I need your help to transfer $450,000,000 out of my country, and you shall be rewarded by the prince..."

So your friend is being accused of some kind of sexual shenanigans, but due to her injuries sustained in a car accident, this isn't something she would have been able to do?

If there's no truth in it, don't rise to it, malicious gossip dies down if nothing is done to fan the flames.

Who's doing the accusing here?

So was it an " accident " ?

OP come back and break your tale down.

Does "car accident" mean it was "car deliberate"?

Was the 'accident' a jealous wife attempting to ram her off the road or run her over?

Or has she started to suspect this is the case recently once she started getting the emails?

I'm as confused as anyone.

I'm confused -

• 6 years ago she got injured
• For 4 years she lived with this, unable to walk and in lots of pain
• 2 years ago her health started to improve, she can now walk and has less constant pain
• 'a while ago' she got some emails saying she had had an affair/was ea (does that stand for emotional affair or being emotionally abusive?)

1. Why are you posting now if this was 'a while ago'? What else has happened?
2. Why do you think that she couldn't have had a relationship of some sort (physically adulterous, emotionally intimate or abusive) in the two years since she started to feel a bit better?

Oh op, please come back to at least rewrite the OP! This is doing me head in