To hate the word "pudding?"

[Misswrite89]

I hate it when people use the word pudding instead of dessert. AIBU?

Talking of couches and settees and sofas, I was very amused when I learned that the French word for that piece of furniture is "canapé ". Could not help feeling I was being invited to sit down on a vol-aI-vent!

Ah yes SenecaFalls - a whole extra level of euphemism is clearly required for American lavatories... bathrooms without baths, rest rooms where you presumably would annoy other people if you settled in for a rather uncomfortable rest, comfort breaks... but an American ex-pat I spent time with was always asking her kids if they needed to "go potty", but she intended them to use the permanent porcelain toilet fixtures not a portable plastic toddler potty - why is that OK but not "do you need the toilet?" :o

Good question about "potty." I never used that with mine, but my grandchildren say it.

My very prim and proper Southern grandmother always said "commode."

Yabu it's pudding here

I much prefer pudding. Desert is a more southern or middle class term
Sticky toffee desert just doesn't sound as yummy as sticky toffee pudding

"Desert is a more southern or middle class term "

No it isn't!

That's cruel. God I so want a sticky toffee PUDDING now

Pudding, or afters!

We also eat breakfast, dinner and tea. As opposed to breakfast, lunch and dinner!

I say dessert if it's cheesecake or creme brulé or something I consider posh. Pudding if it's cake and custard or yogurt.

I was raised in London where at school it was always "dinner" and "pudding". My family is from all over the shop which is why I probably why I use all the words for meals interchangeably, dinner, tea, supper. My poor kids probably don't know if I'm coming or going!

dessert is so pretentious!

If eating a pudding such as a cake or tart with a dessert fork but no spoon, where on the table would you lay the dessert fork?

theKitchenWitch are you Australian? Cos that's true here too.

To ask "what's for pudding?" Is as nonsensical as asking "what's for cheesecake?", because pudding is a specific type of dessert (a stodgy, cakey, or warm dessert, as others have said).

Also, here it's more usual to serve cheese and crackers before a meal than after (although it's often a dessert option at high end restaurants). When we were first in the UK we confused some guests by serving cheese when they arrived for dinner (being the evening meal)...the guests later confessed to feeling a bit miffed, assuming this meant we weren't going to serve dinner at all.

I love the way language is used in the uk, and how it identifies people's geographical and social backgrounds. Always find it interesting that Brits get upset about it and some insist there's no such thing as class here. Ha!

"pudding" sounds funny with a scouse accent unless said correctly.
It comes out as "pudden"
I make my dc's say it correctly

My default word is pudding. But some puddings don't seem very puddingy (ice cream or fruit salad for example) so I might sometimes say dessert and I don't mind if other people do.

If you say 'sweet' I will judge you very harshly indeed.

i still can't find any definition of dessert as a specific type of dish. Those of you insisting it's cake or yogurt or creme brûlée- where is this coming from?

Tbh if you referred to the dessert course as pudding I'd either assume we were actually having a pudding if some sort (probably cooked in an actual pudding basin/bowl) or that you were using slightly infantile language, a bit like saying "din dins".
I'm from London, if that makes any difference.

Oma Sticky toffee pudding would never be a sticky toffee dessert because it is actually a pudding, ie, something spongey/cakey/stodgy/pie like, or with a filling encased in some sort of dough, steamed or baked, which is what an actual pudding is, either sweet or savoury.

But I was brought up to just call all sweet courses after my main meal a pudding, regardless of what they were.

If you say 'afters' I will also judge you harshly.

TheKitchen I think historically in the UK most commonly any sweet dish offered after a meal would probably have been something that was technically a pudding, ie. a steamed or baked stodgy dough with a filling.

Dessert presumably comes from the French and is therefore considered to be a bit pretentious when used by English speakers when we have a perfectly fitting word of our own - pudding.

But I think these 'rules' are pretty outdated these days and clung onto by the upper middle classes only. We have so many words in our lexicon now that hark from somewhere else as the world has got smaller and we've travelled/eaten/married 'out' as it were, I don't think anyone cares anymore. It seems daft to consider dessert to be pretentious when we quite happily say restaurant, garage, cappuccino, panini, baguette etc.

Is that a trick question UrgentSchoolHelp?

I put dessert cutlery above the plate. If it's just a fork, then with the tines facing left as you're going to pick it up with your right hand. If there's a spoon as well, that goes with the bowl to the left and the fork goes below it facing the other way, for aesthetic reasons.
BUT I may be terribly wrong for the cutlery police....

I'm middle class and southern, and never say dessert!! It's pudding for everything, whether crumble and custard, profiteroles, banana or muller corner, but if you must differentiate:

Pudding - anything sweet
I'm at the end of a meal, or something hot and sweet you could have with custard.

Dessert - fancy and delicate sweet course.

Dessert has always sounded a bit wrong, affected. I use pudding but get that it sounds like some kind of suet number.

I always think of Luna Lovegood, skipping off, muttering "I hope there's puddin"

Agree that "afters" and "sweet" are shuddersome

I prefer dessert.

I hate the word pudding it sounds so common!

A surprising number of people use it though.

It is just the way I was brought up.

I also find if I use the word serviette some people make a comment!

Pudding!!!

Dessert i can cope with, 'sweet' not so much.

i am well known for my particular dislike of the word 'tea' to refer to the evening meal. To me that will always be 'dinner', as I grew up with it and we had tea mid afternoon!

'Pudding' strikes me as a term used by ruddy-faced gels who wear their DH's rugger shirt with the collar turned up.

Pudding is awful it sounds dumpy

serviette is used by the French for all towels including massive thick bath ones. Made me laugh to think of drying myself with a napkin.