To hate the word "pudding?"

[Misswrite89]

I hate it when people use the word pudding instead of dessert. AIBU?

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Is there is a North / South divide?

A bit of one, but it's also a class thing, I think, as per my earlier post.

If you called it perfume, did someone say 'we call it scent, dear'?

Yes, I get that Bertrand

Still associate the word pudding with nursery talk rather than class and adults likely to inform a room full of other adults that they are going for a wee, or even a wee wee...

Americans don't say "scent" for perfume. Scent in the US just means a smell, including a bad one. If someone said to me, "I like your scent," I'd be .

pudding ....

and who eats their pudding with a fork and never a spoon ?

I say scent because I associate perfume with feeling sick - as a kid those sprays in department stores gave me migraines. I like the word more. Just the sound of it, and the relative simplicity. Scent sounds fresher, somehow. I had no idea it had any connotations at all. And I have never met anyone, ever, who said "glass" for "mirror" - surely that's a pre-WW2 term?

I don't like fancy words generally when a good plain one exists. My in-laws are always talking about "spacious" instead of "big", "capital" rather than "savings", and "property" instead of "house". MIL will say someone is, "very wealthy" when they're rich. My father is exactly the same (and he's not British, either, so I don't think it's necessarily related to class at all - I think that's a British fixation, while the habit is international.) It's grating - what's wrong with simple words, anyway? And that's why lounge, serviette, and so on grate, too. Lounge was a fancy way of saying sitting room. Serviette and toilet prissy ways of saying napkin and loo.

I'm Australian, and an entree there is a starter.

Or to quote an Australian relative, "I don't like it when people call a spade a fucking shovel."

Every day is a a school day on MN. I never knew dessert indicated a specific category of "sweet dish". I'm in Ireland and always say "dessert"; I never hear anybody use "pudding".

I remember as a kid visiting my aunt in England and declining when she asked if I wanted pudding. I thought she meant a Christmas pudding type of thing, which I didn't like. Had my sad face on when everybody else was served a delicious-looking slice of lemon cake. Was too shy to reveal my error (and my Mam would have been vexed with me if I did!).

and interestingly sleeponeday...those simple words are used by the upper class...i would have been sent out of the room if i said dessert or toilet as a child ...it was always pudding and loo....and i am very posh

and uses napkin rings... which she calls serviette rings

But napkin rings aren't remotely posh. They mean you have to reuse your napkin for the next meal. Yuk.

I never knew such poverty existed.....

and who eats their pudding with a fork and never a spoon ?

People who eat steak & kidney pudding, black pudding?

not in my house !

never even saw a spoon except if having soup....same when i went to boarding school ...even for jelly

Given that we're on the subject of pudding and what cutlery to consume it with, let's compare notes on where said cutlery should be laid on the table….

DH always insists on putting spoon and fork horizontally at the top of place setting which irks me somewhat

I have an irrational dislike of "luncheon" and the verb "offer" in relation to food.

All the British class indicators are fascinating! My lovely MiL is quite posh and I was always quite bemused that she uses "What?" quite bluntly, as I would see it. I say "Sorry?" but expected she would say "Pardon?". MN revealed to me that "What?" is actually much posher than "Pardon?"!!

I eat my pudding with a fork & spoon, and eat light pastry/cake type puddings with a pastry fork.

Have often been complimented on my perfume, but somebody once said "..I love your scent..".
It was a bloke I worked with who was a bit creepy and he'd sidled up behind me and said it into my ear.
As a result I find the word scent horribly creepy and it gives me the heebie-jeebies.

notdead - I wouldn't be seen DEAD having a fork and spoon across the top!

I say scent, have been known to use glass instead of mirror, use bag instead of handbag etc etc.

Ha ha. Will confess I often 're' lay the table even though I know he will accuse me of being a snob

Your husband is right re the fork and spoon Notdeadyet!

Oh dear. You all lay your own table??

Also, it irritates me no end when people don't put their cutlery together when they finish eating, and when they hold their cutlery wrong.

Interesting, Bunny. I was always taught 'outside in' all the way including pudding cutlery.

Have seen it done both ways in smart circles more recently, but was sort of drilled into me so have always stuck with what I was shown.

YANBU

It's nearly as bad as 'supper'