AIBU not to give them a lift?

[Joolsy]

DD1 and her 2 friends (12) were going to catch a bus for the 1st time into town. I dropped her off at friend's house in plenty of time, however, the 2 friends decided to start doing their breakfast when we arrived. Friend's mum and I kept warning them they would miss the bus if they didn't hurry up. They finally left the house with minutes to spare, and surprise surprise, they missed the bus. Friend's mum then asked me to run them into town in my car. I refused, saying that they should have been more organised (this was late morning, so plenty of time to have breakfast before we arrived). I felt bad for DD1 but she seemed fine about it & happy to wait for next bus an hour later. Friend's mum called me "mean" as she was going to collect them from town later and thought I should do my bit. I said she didn't need to collect them as they could get the bus back! She said "ah but I'm a nice mummy" and I said "so am I"! I think it's an important life lesson to make sure you leave enough time to catch a bus without mum always there to pick up the pieces if you miss it. Was IBU?

What's wrong with a trio of 12 year olds waiting an hour for a bus?

Nothing that I can see. If they want to faff about and then waste their own time, that's up to them. Weekends are generally a busy time, so not all parents can be at their children's beck and call on the off-chance they need a lift or their bottoms wiping for them.

The other mother can do as she sees fit. Take them or pick them up, her choice.

The friends mother was at fault for not encouraging her daughters to have had breakfast before you and daughter arrive, in time to catch the bus. As for making that snide comment about " I'm a nice mummy ", an idiot would be a better word.

Makes you wonder how her daughters are going to manage when they eventually get a job, or go to uni without mummy around.

completely agree - she's doing her daughter no favours

Thanks all, yes they did return to friend's house, and then friend's mum decided she would drive them into town :)

Your friend is to blame - she should have made sure the 2 girls had eaten breakfast in time before you arrived. She had a nerve calling you mean.

Time keeping and missing busses is all part of growing up.

They should have got the bus. It was their first time, and they were presumably all geared up for it. Missing the bus and waiting for the next one is a life lesson