Name changed as facts are very identifying. Also a bit long to avoid drip feeding.
I have MS. Married. Work full time in a demanding and fairly senior job. Two DC, 14 and 12. On Monday I'm going into hospital for five days of a fairly aggressive treatment. I've had to fight to get the treatment and, although I'm sure it's right long-term, it's likely to make me worse for at least a few weeks. I expect to be off work until the end of April. It's also pretty standard to have a tough time during the treatment with various reactions ranging from severe headaches, itchy rash, nausea, fever etc, etc.
DH has already said that, when I get home, if domestic / kids stuff HAS to be done and I REALLY CAN'T do it, then he will. But with most things I'll have to accept that, if I can't do it, it won't get done!
Hospital is almost two hours travel from home (London so either train or crawling traffic). My dsis is taking me in on Monday so DH can go to work. DC are covered for care, feeding etc by folks and friends (including sleeping over) until Thursday evening.
DH is going to pop in before he goes home on Monday - it's about 45 minutes to get to me from work then near.y two hours home so I realise it's not easy. He then has a (optional) work drinks thing he's going to on Tuesday. Wednesday he chose to make a medical appointment of his own that he's been putting off for weeks and Thursday he needs to come home as he's needed for DC - first time he's needed for them all week. Friday (bank holiday so he's not working) he says he'll get to me mid-afternoon in time to bring me home. He's not planning on taking any time off work in case he needs it later in the year - he has 5 days more than me.
Dsis will stay to get me settled on Monday but would like to be home for lunchtime. DC will probably visit on Wednesday as my folks can bring them. A friend will try and pop in one day but it's unlikely. So, that's it. Most people having this treatment have someone there most of the time but I'll be a Norma No Mates. Was dreading the actual treatment already, now feel even worse.
So, aibu to think DH should be stepping up and being a bit more supportive? And wwyd?