DD is in an outstanding Ofsted top scoring school in the area. It is MASSIVE. Around 1700 pupils.
DD is quiet, shy and has low self esteem and confidence.
She is drowning in a huge school, she has some sen to the point she was on school action plus at primary. Time after time at parents evening teachers tell me she is struggling in X area which is part of her SEN and when I mention this they have not been told despite the senco promising she has told everyone, she has a toilet pass for medical reasons and certain teachers refuse her to go to the point she has wet herself on several occasions in school by the time she has reached the toilets.
She is also fairly invisible, she has 5 merits and the naughty kids have 100s. . A fairly major incident happened recently. I feel schools response was awful. If this had happened at another school they child would have been expelled but they haven't.
The only plus point is some of the teachers have been brilliant and she has a special needs room she can use at lunch so she does not have to go on the yard and she can queue jump at lunch.
School 2 has 600 pupils. It is much smaller. It has been struggling after being one of the best schools in the area for a long time. It has good pastoral care and a new head teacher has recently taken over who seems to be turning it around again after an awful few Ofsted reports. The GCSE score are slightly lower that the school she is at but that is under the old head. The new head is in to raise standards and by all accounts he is. The school has brilliant sen resources and an sen video on it's site which seems to give a good indication they give a shit.
At school 2 they are often on trips. At dds school only the gifted and talented kids ever seem to go anywhere.
I am going to go and look again at school 2 and have a chat but I don't know what to do!