AIBU to want to change jobs after 3 weeks?

[passmethehoover]

I recently started work at a veterinary surgery as a receptionist. The other receptionist who has been there donkeys years decided on the hours so I work Wed 1-7pm Thurs 8.30am - 7pm and Friday 8.30am - 7pm plus every other Sat and Sun 9-12. I don't mind working long days but my issue is when I get home (around 7.30pm ish) I am then expected to cook a meal for everyone. DH is an arse to cook for he hates curry, chilli, stew etc so the slow cooker is a no go. Last night I got in to find my DS (12) hadn't even had a drink and was complaining of a headache! I have been offered an interview on Monday for a regular 9-5 job but for some reason my DH is kicking up a fuss at me saying he hates his job but he has bills to pay and can't just leave etc. I'm not looking to just quit without another job in place so I really don't understand his attitude. I was really pleased that I had got an interview but he put a total downer on things and didn't speak to me for the rest of the night.

Thank you for all your replies I spent most of yesterday crying as I read them. I think you are right the problem lies with my husband. I am a different person to how I used to be. I don't socialise, I gave up my hobbies and I'm not happy. He isn't the sort to be able to have a mature discussion with he will just end up losing his temper and throwing me out. I haven't anywhere else to go or any money to start again and if I leave I won't have a car to get to either job as they are both fairly remote. But these are obstacles I can overcome.

Make a plan. First order of the day is to tell your DS that his arms and legs both work and that if you turn the tap on, water comes out which you can drink!

Try and get some money aside as an emergency fund - or do you have family that can lend you some money for a deposit, which you can pay back once you're on your feet?

Look for a job which is accessible by public transport, so you don't have the commute issues.

Then dump your H's sorry arse and move out with your DS.

By the way, as you are married, he can't "throw you out" no matter how much he thinks he is in control.

As you make your plans and get your ducks in a row I would quietly see a solicitor just for advice so you know where you stand should it come to that. Many will give you 30 minutes advice for free.

Good luck.