I am, I know being UR. Back story.
DF serial philanderer. DM alcoholic for as long as I can remember (currently an amazing truly amazing 7 years sober).
DF I would say was & still is VERY controlling. DM always has & always will be in love with him.
They spilt 20 years ago, never got divorced, DF has always financially supported DM, albeit with control.
DF went off with OW & they are still together.
It is relevant that I can't stand the OW, she was hideous to me when my DS was born, I am not allowed in "their" house, if I am ever invited by my DF surprise surprise, there is "not enough food" for me & DS - have prob been there 3 times in last 3 years.
I invited DF & OW at Xmas, they came, she had a smacked arse face all day. My DM remained with full decorum (she rocks!).
My dislike for DF's OW is damaging (to me) I am aware of that, but I wouldn't accept anyone else to treat me as bad as she does so just because she is my DF's partner I don't believe I should have to tolerate it.
To cut to the chase. DF tells DM he is divorcing her (yesterday) after 20 years. Then throws in to say he will be marrying the cunt his partner. DF is 72, GF is 54.
I am so upset as is my DM, but I know I am being UR as DF & DM have been separated for so long. I am 40 next year, why is this hurting me as if I was a little girl?
My parents split was nasty. OW was actually living in our fucking house when the affair started. But that's not relevant now is it?
My problem is I hate the fucking bitch so much & I don't want her anywhere near me or my DS. My relationship with DF has always been close to perfect (past never spoken about, he's never let me down etc ....)
My reasons for disliking her so intensely is for the way she treats me now & they way she treated me when DS was born (threw me & DS out in the cold when he was 6wks, told me to move away ... the list goes on) DF will hear nothing of it & says I make it up.
I'm just sat here with this on my mind & I don't like it.
I want to feel better about this so I'm not grumpy or sad for my DS.
Don't know what I am asking really, just good getting it on paper I suppose :(