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'Defied the Doctors'

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MyKingdomForBrie · 18/03/2016 11:15

AIBU to absolutely hate this term? It appears in the news all the time, 'miracle baby defied the doctors to survive' etc. As if 'the doctors' are some kind of evil band of mercenaries willing people to die, and that survival is despite their best efforts.

Ok so it's a really minor point but it just annoys me so much!

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WorraLiberty · 18/03/2016 11:22

That's not what springs to my mind when I hear the term.

I understand it to mean that doctors thought in all probability they would die, but they survived instead.

FrozenPonds · 18/03/2016 11:25

I've only ever read or heard of it as 'defied doctors predictions', which is fair enough.

Do you mean in headlines, where they are pushed for space, and assume people are able to figure out the meanin

FrozenPonds · 18/03/2016 11:25

Meaning Grin

MyKingdomForBrie · 18/03/2016 11:27

I'm sure that's what actually happened worra but that's not what the word means and that's why it annoys me. It will likely be a lot to do with the Drs that they did survive so why is that a defiance of them?!

Also that's a very good point and probably more relevant tiggy

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CantChoose · 18/03/2016 11:36

Completely with tiggy' - while some find it helpful, in my experience the 'battle' terminology often causes people to feel unnecessary guilt if their illness progresses. It is also a barrier to people communicating that they don't want to continue with treatments as they feel they are cowardly, 'giving up the fight' when actually sometimes that's the bravest decision possible IMO.
'Defying the odds' makes me giggle a bit - that's the whole point of odds.... Though it's more accurate than saying 'defied the doctors', I agree.
And for everyone who does well, there's another person who unfortunately has seen the opposite - otherwise the odds would change! They don't make the headlines though...

dodobookends · 18/03/2016 11:38

It means "defied the doctors' prognosis" as in defying the predicted likely outcome, not the doctors.

IdaJones · 18/03/2016 11:38

Yanbu. It does make it sound like the doctors wanted them to die.

expatinscotland · 18/03/2016 11:41

YANBU. Nothing miraculous, either, just luck.

CallousAndStrange · 18/03/2016 12:33

YANBU. Also 'brave' ALWAYS being applied to anyone with any illness. Having an illness does not automatically make you brave. It just makes you ill.

MyKingdomForBrie · 18/03/2016 12:46

But if it means that dodo it should say it, although as others point out that's actually really inaccurate also.

It annoys me because not only does it make illness sound like a battle you can win if you fight hard enough but also one that is dr v patient.

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RockUnit · 18/03/2016 12:58

YANBU

dodobookends · 19/03/2016 13:15

It is just clumsy journalism and/or bad grammar; and the misuse of language that's all. That is irritating, I agree.

I don't much like the use of words such as 'battle' and 'fight' either, as if the people who die haven't fought hard enough to win, and they would have survived if they'd made more of an effort.

shinynewusername · 19/03/2016 14:17

YANBU. You'd think reading the DM that we doctors delight in nothing more than telling people they will never walk again Hmm

In fact, one of the hardest parts of the job is being honest and not giving people false hope. We are always delighted when someone defies the odds and proves us wrong, but it would be cruel to patients and families not to be truthful about a prognosis.

OurBlanche · 19/03/2016 14:41

I don't mind battle and fight - when referring to the researchers/scientists who actually 'do' something. But when applied to fundraisers it is ludicrous and when applied to sufferers is demoralising and misleading.

And I agree, defying doctors is a ridiculous use of language - Ya boo sucks GP. I defy you to make me even more ill!

Sadly journalism is becoming more and more 'less than' by the year. Pah!

Trills · 19/03/2016 14:53

'Defied the Doctors'

Sounds like the doctors TOLD someone to do something, and they did not.
e.g. doctors told them to take a certain treatment, and they did something else instead.
Perhaps in the context of using homeopathy instead of real medicine and (coincidentally) getting better.

Defying doctors by just surviving - it's not as if doctors TELL babies to die.

Unless there's a word missing and it's Defied the doctors' expectations, which would be a perfectly reasonable sentence.

CaptainCrunch · 19/03/2016 17:28

It's just tabloid speak. People always "battle" cancer,, ill children are "tragic tots".

LikeDylanInTheMovies · 19/03/2016 17:37

I'm fascinated by tabloid language as it seems to want to replicate everyday speech but uses phrases and words that no one would use in real life.

I was planning a mercy dash to the bedside of a tragic tot, but have decided I'd settle for a slap up meal with pals instead. It was either that or a steamy romp.

CaptainCrunch · 19/03/2016 20:50

I think I love you dylan Smile

IdaJones · 19/03/2016 20:52

Grin Dylan

parallax80 · 19/03/2016 22:03

There's lots of really interest commentary on the "military metaphor" (all the 'fight against cancer' etc stuff) in medicine. This editorial is a good summary, I think:

www.bmj.com/content/349/bmj.g5155

I personally dislike it, for exactly these reasons - it makes a moral issue (deserving, fighting etc) out of a medical one. However, I've often heard the side effects of chemotherapy described as 'collateral damage', which can be a useful way to help people to understand what happens.

LikeDylanInTheMovies · 20/03/2016 00:48

Cheers Captain I often imagine how trivial episodes in my life would appear if described in a tabloid newspaper. I was a bit late for work this week and got told to buck my ideas up by the jobsworth supervisor. In my head it became:

"Wantaway worker Dylan, 35 was heading for crisis talks after office supremos branded his timekeeping 'shoddy'.

Dylan slammed back smearing, gob-smacked gaffers as 'boring uptight arse aches'. and issued a 'come and get me' plea to the dole office, which sources close to Dylan suggest could be the likely destination for the wayward wage-slave should last-ditch showdown talks break down.

CaptainCrunch · 20/03/2016 09:09

Genius, get thee down to news corporation pronto, you could single handedly revitalise the print industry.

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