How would you react to this?

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If your twelve year old was put on after school detention for forgetting his cooking ingredients? Detention one hour after school.

Ah. You're one of those parents dawn.

It's hard as you learn to parent, from your parents :)

Wow dawn - way to teach your kids that they can ignore their teachers

Actually bollocks you definitely don't learn to parent from your parents. You learn maybe some things, but it is up to you how you parent. Thank God.

Just make a mental note to not copy the things you think are wrong.

I think my mum may have had autism.

Wow Dawn, you're one of those parents huh? Good luck with that. I knew a mother like you once, her delightful daughter loved to bully the other kids, but because she "didn't agree with giving her detention" over it she would just let the kid come home. She got expelled in the end, it was great.

Blimey Dawn parents like you used to do my 'ead in when my lot were younger.

One particular parent stands out. She never accepted anything the school tried to do with regard to her daughters. She thought it was "clever and inventive" that one of her DDs tore up letters that the School tried to send home about behaviour. She seemed to applaud their "feistiness". Feistiness was actually disrupting lessons and bunking off.

Both kids were a pain in the arse because they did not accept authority from anyone (even their mother). They were both extremely bright kids (when she sent them to secondary school she told everyone including the HT that the school were privileged to have them there as they were both Oxbridge material).

Last I heard one has never worked and is shacked up in Cornwall with a surf dude. Other has a drug problem.

All kids need to understand and respect authority.

You must be one of my siblings

Realising and processing that one or both of your parents are unbalanced is a gradual process.

Why autism?

My kids do not attend detentions and they have never been put in isolation either.

The schools are quite good about different punitive methods.

Why don't your kids attend detentions sock anmesty?

I think it's silly but I home educate so maybe not qualified to answer this
So they forgot something, once.
Big deal! I forget stuff all the time!
Id let them have a word about it, miss out on the cooking, and move on!

So they forgot something, once.
Big deal!

It is a big deal if you're the teacher and you've got students who can't participate in the lesson because they don't have the required equipment. Detention is appropriate. Anyway, children really need to learn to be organised before they sneer the world of work of higher education.

Sneer?! Enter is what I meant.

But if every other student remembered, it won't put the teacher out surely?
Maybe the others could share out their ingredients?
Forgetting things occasionally isn't the same as deliberately being naughty, it just happens and in the real world you deal with it by adapting the situation.

Goozeberry, I'm not entirely sure but she reacted very disproportionately to things. She once slapped my brother really hard across the face because he had been playing knock and run. She and my dad used to go to a dancing class and take us and just sit us in the corner with a colouring book and my brother ran off and played knock and run and was returned and she slapped him full force across the face screeching.

She also used to go mad if I had a spat with a friend at school, reacted to it like the world had ended.

But if every other student remembered, it won't put the teacher out surely?

They need to find something for the student to do during the lesson and it makes it less likely that everyone will remember their stuff next time. As long as the consequences for not bringing the required equipment are made known in advance they should be enforced.

So this detention was instead of missing cooking or as well as?
If she genuinely forgot the ingredients I would imagine having to sit through the cookery lesson without being able to cook or have something to bring home would be punishment in itself.
If the school felt further punishment was in order she could have been made to effectively do the detention somewhere less interesting while she should have been cooking.
Unless this was a repeat offence for which she had already received warnings, I think a detention is out of proportion.

purple it's school policy, first it was any kids who lived further away than x then it was any further away and the rural lot, now it's all.

That's all 4 schools, 3 of the schools also don't have homework.

Dawn of the Doggers

I'd be saying "that's nice" and he'd be coming home as usual. There's no way any school is detaining one of my children. It's not happening

Oh great , no doubt we will all have to put up with this Little Lord Fauntleroy's entitled attitude in years to come because in mummy's eyes he could do no wrong

Thanks! I was just wondering if you had s moral objection to detention. I'd forgotten that done schools with a large catchment did this.

What was behind her reactions, do you think, OP?

Fear? Concern about the opinions of others? Anxiety?

I'm quite surprised you suspect autism. That wasn't what I was picturing from your earlier posts.

I think she pictured us in a very particular and specific way and was outraged when we didn't comply :)