...to report my friend for feigning disability?

[Longhorne]

To cut a long story short - my friend is pretending to be visually impaired to get concert tickets and thinks it's no big deal.

Full story...

There's a concert in my city for which the tickets sold out really fast. My friend and another mutual friend wanted to go but didn't get tickets. The mutual friend works at a local college for people with disabilities and suggested that they get 'disabled tickets' which entitle a carer to go free of charge with someone with a disability (the carer friend has done this before for events with students of the college) and these tickets were still available. They have now got these tickets and my friend is going to pretend to have a visual impairment if challenged at the concert. This makes me feel so uncomfortable. I've mentioned this to my friend and she's laughed it off as though she's clever for playing the system. I've mentioned it to her again and made it clear that I really don't think it's right and she's acted like I'm the mug for not having thought of it first.

Would I BU for saying something to the venue or the concert promoters so she can't get away with this? Am I just interfering in something that doesn't really affect me?

Maybe just tell her that you'll leave it to her conscience & that she's lucky she doesn't have a real disability... hope it sticks in her throat when she's surrounded by people at the concert who are genuinely disabled

what a surprise.....op's never posted under this name before

I've just re-read the OP - one of these people WORKS IN A COLLEGE FOR DISABLED STUDENTS??? and has suggested abusing a system resulting in which a genuine disabled person will be deprived of a seat completely? Some compassion for their pupils they have. In the wrong job. Without the availabilty/existence of these seats, I and others like me would be unable to go to concerts AT ALL. If their employers knew....

Yes shop her. I certainly wouldn't let her get away with it either OP, the piss taking cow. Depriving a genuinely disabled person from going. Incredibly sneaky and horribly selfish.

It's the person using their position of authority within an organisation that works with disabled people, in order to fraudulently obtain concert tickets, that would give me the greater concern. Those tickets are meant for people she is supposed to be helping.

Faking a disability to obtain an advantage is twattish, using your position to assist yourself instead of those you are paid to assist is double twattish.

I would actually report it to the local college where they got the tickets. Unethical and morally wrong.

And I wouldn't be friends with her any more.

MrsDeVere - I was starting to think that PP think that the OP is not the friend here but the culprit and was hoping people would be No Big Deal about it. I don't think it's trolling - people do actually do this a lot more than is fair or reasonable I know from experience.

Yeah its probably not real so shouldnt get involved, but has your imaginary friend given a thought to how many gig tickets people (i!!) have missed out on because their disabled allocation is limited? And if you have a wheelchair for eg, you have to sit in the disabled allocation - there is no option to just buy a regular ticket

And does your friend know that many places offer presale to fans. But oh no, not if you have additional requirements. Bugger you, you can wait til standard release, wait on hold for hours and then come out of it all with no ticket.

I would call them, but don't be surprised if they can't / won't do anything.

And then I would be cutting this idiot out of your life. People like this are the reason people with invisible illnesses struggle being believed.

And I'd be contacting the college with the individuals name as well. She's abusing her position.

She should be reported to both the college and the theatre. This is quite a serious thing and I can't believe people think it's OK. Most people with a visual impairment would be utterly horrified to think some low life would fake this disability to get free tickets. Beyond shameful.

Poke her in the eyes.

Job done.

Whenever I have purchased tickets for the disabled for my DD I have always had to prove the disability, either at point of purchase or at point of entry.

I don't see how they will get away with this.

It's absolutely morally wrong, they could be denying the tickets to someone who actually needs them.

Disgraceful. I can't believe PP are saying to ignore it. (Even if they don't believe it, it must be condemned.)

This person would not be my friend anymore, and I would be seriously worried about the attitude of their friend too. To work with disabled people, and then screw them over? Outrageous.

I have been to large scale events as a carer. Tickets are very limited for disabled people. And next to impossible if you want to sit as a group with one disabled person.

Even the Paralympics only allocate one seat next to a wheelchair space. My family returned our tickets to an event when we realised that our four seats and a wheelchair space were allocated as a wheelchair space plus one seat, and three further seats elsewhere. Heaven forbid we could sit as a family.

At Twickenham, one of the wheelchair terraces is set up with carers seats behind the wheelchair space. Can't even see their face, let alone have a conversation during the match. (The other terraces are better, but it further limits spaces when even the adapted area is not fit for purpose.)

One time at Twickenham, at half time, all us carers helped our companions towards the accessible bathroom (1 stall) to find it engaged. After waiting a few minutes an able bodied gent came out. Another carer gave him an earful for using it when the other toilets were mere meters away. (As an able bodied person, even with a hidden disability, he'd be able to use the other toilets, which were also individual rooms, should he require privacy.)

It boils my piss, it really does. Same as people who park in disabled bays at night because "no one needs them now". I didn't realise disabled people had a curfew. Ffs. (What they really mean of course is that the traffic wardens have gone home.)

I'd be having serious words at least.
I need those seats or else I can't go, and even then I can't go in a group as I can only have one person with me.
Faking disability is low, really low.

Shameful.

I tried to park in a blue badge space at my High School today
(to take my dd to a sports event).

5 BB spaces, 3 of them have had black bin liners put over the BB 'posts' to make them into 'ordinary' spaces.

I asked the security why (school has 1,000 kids so a biggish car park)
so 2 spaces pretty small ratio.

I was told: 'people without BB's park in the spaces. there is nothing we can do. so we reduced the spaces to make more room for them.'

When I was the guy actually told me: 'it's okay, we don't get many of them in at the same time, usually'. Many of who I asked: 'the Disabled lot'.

I know this isn't the same but it is another example of the crass idiocy disabled people have to deal with all the time.

Reporting her? Two twats don't make a right OP

There's only one twat and it's not the OP.

Another point that hasn't been mentioned, since you can only have one person with you, that has to be your carer.
My carer is my teenager, if I had, say, two small children, I'd need a carer, and then wouldn't be able to take said children.
Being disabled is shit enough without people faking it for the 'free stuff'
Ha, fucking ha.

I'm with you honey - when I was a kid going to Alton Towers I could go on as a group with my Mum, my sister and 2 cousins.

Because of people abusing the system and taking the piss, it's now been limited to one person ONLY with the disabled person. God forbid that they have other children to look after as well, or god forbid that the disabled child just wants to feel normal for a change and go on rides WITH their siblings and friends.

Things that were designed to make families facing the challenge of disability easier are being so eroded because of a kind of weird "Why should they??!" ENVY on the part of others.

I am reminded of the phrase : "You took my space, would you like my disability as well??"

I don't get that Chipped? . OP would be a twat for reporting her, is that what you're saying ?

As the parent of a severely disabled DC I find it impossible to understand why anyone would try to cheat their away to benefits meant for the disabled. What I feel for people like your friend is something approaching hatred. Why would you want to be friends with someone like this? And I hope her employers find out about her too and that she is sacked for gross misconduct.

ive taken advantage of a scheme like this my mums tho technically not disabled in a sense she is but has nothing in writing to prove it but her mobility is very bad but the venue class this area as easy access = there was someone sitting next to us with a broken leg
i didnt even know the scheme existed until i called them direct to ask for easy access seats and the told me about the carer goes free

have i thought of using it without my mum going.....hell yeah but not yet done it