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AIBU?

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To think DS's obsession with serial killers is concerning?

92 replies

oxfordyvonne · 17/03/2016 20:19

I know this is a strange title but recently DS has been displaying some behaviours and interests that are a little weird. We're a family of avid readers and are always recommending new reads to each other, and DS is old enough now to read more sophisticated novels so I suggested Helter Skelter by Vincent Bugliosi and Curt Gentry which is a book about Charles Manson and his crimes. Fascinating read if you ever get the chance. Anyway, he finished reading a week ago and told me how much he loved it and how fascinating it was to him.

Since then he's gone absolutely serial killer mad. Every day he'll talk endlessly about killers he's researched like Ed Gein and John Wayne Gacy, and more obscure ones such as Aileen Wuornos (who I didn't even know myself, had to research her). He'll tell me statistics, how many people they killed and the circumstances, which prison they're currently in and how long their sentences are. I understand all kids have their obsessions but this is far more morbid than playing with LEGO or The Sims. I know it's my fault too for recommending the novel, didn't think it would lead to this though. AIBU? Deary me. I need a glass of wine!

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MistressMerryWeather · 17/03/2016 20:42

I have always been fascinated with this stuff even though it genuinely scares the crap out of me.

Tell him to read up on H. H. Holmes.

Absolutely chilling.

LeaLeander · 17/03/2016 20:42

I have been a true crime maven for quite some time; those books sell like hotcakes so presumably many others are too.

I would not, however, have introduced a young adolescent to gory crimes like the Manson murders. College student, yes. Fifteen-year-old, no. Brains are still developing in the teens and why introduce unhealthy materials at that point?

FellOutOfBedTwice · 17/03/2016 20:43

Another one who's been fascinated with that kind of thing since I was about 9 or 10. I'm not a serial killer! Definitely get him to listen to Serial. He will love it!

NewMinouMinou · 17/03/2016 20:43

Pretty much every member of my family is like this, OP. My eldest niece is the best example (she works for an investment bank, so maybe there is an evil streak...), she loves anything related to serial killers and horror films.
However, she's also very compassionate and full of empathy for humans and animals alike and (when not reenacting scenes from The Human Centipede) is a caring, sharing human being.
Agree with a PP about maybe trying to arm oneself with knowledge against murderers.

TheWildRumpyPumpus · 17/03/2016 20:43

I love true crime things and an another who used to spend my pocket money on gory serial killer magazines rather than Smash Hits in the newsagents as a teenager! Weird...

Wouldn't say I've turned out normal exactly but I'm not a criminal Grin

MistressMerryWeather · 17/03/2016 20:48

See, I can't watch movies like The Human Centipede and hate gore.

I could sit for hours googling people like Holmes though.

eddielizzard · 17/03/2016 20:49

i was like that at his age. keep an eye on the family pets tho.

Pipbin · 17/03/2016 20:49

Oh yes, Devil in the White City.

Don't worry, I loved all that kind of stuff then too. I have friends who still are. One works with offenders.

dogsnotsprogs · 17/03/2016 20:50

I'm going to sound like an awful person.

I fall asleep every night with either crime channel (CI or ID) on.

I watched my first horror film (Blair Witch Project) with my dad at about 7 years old. I loved it and have since seen hundreds of some very shit horror / gore / thrillers.

I love watching things about crime, murder, deception, prison, etc. I've even done a A2 Level coursework on Myra HindleyHalo

And sorry to say, but I've seen all the gore sites. They are filled with the depravity of human kind, with no censorship. There's suicide, sexual violence, murder, ISIS propaganda - you name it, it's on there.

Even if my child/teen was interested, I literally would have no worries or concerns. It's interesting and personally, more enjoyable to read/watch than go out and get drunk or go to car meets down McDonaldsWink

MrsJayy · 17/03/2016 20:50

Im really scared of horror films now i hide at adverts on Tv

JessTitchener · 17/03/2016 20:51

Generation why have just done a brilliant episode about Aileen Wournos. They talk to an author who wrote about her and met her.
It's a good one to start with.

TheLesserSpottedBee · 17/03/2016 20:53

Lea Ds1 is 12 and they did Jack the Ripper as a history topic in year 7 when he was 11. So it isn't as if this is something unusual that they have never heard of before.

Ds1 is very much into werewolves. He finds them fascinating. I too love wolves and have done since I was a teenager. I am not worried though.

I love to read about serial killers because I am fascinated by what makes someone murder, I am interested in the psychology of it all.

The Poisoner's Handbook on Netflix is a fascinating look at poisoning and the people behind the science. Not serial killers but well worth a watch.

MistressMerryWeather · 17/03/2016 20:53

There is an excellent documentary on Netflix about Aileen Wournos

almondpoisson · 17/03/2016 20:53

If he starts dismembering pet cats, neighbourhood dogs, maybe a postman - you need to worry. Reading and researching and a bit of nerdery? no problem

pigeonpoo · 17/03/2016 20:54

For a 16 year old I don't think it's that odd.

I hate horror - yet I'm addicted to true crime and murder mystery type tv shows and can spend hours fascinated morbidly about people like Manson

If it was that unusual there wouldn't be all these books and programmes and documentaries

If he was 6 then I'd think it very very concerning as age inappropriate but by 16 you don't need to have had any nasty life experiences to know that the world isn't always rainbows and moonshine

JessTitchener · 17/03/2016 20:55

The unsolved mysteries sub reddit is pretty good but can lead to wasted hours!

MistressMerryWeather · 17/03/2016 20:56

Oh don't Jess! I have enough problems procrastinating. :o

I'll have to go look now.

oxfordyvonne · 17/03/2016 20:56

Ooh thanks for all your suggestions, will take them all into account and probably sit down with DS and watch them - at least I'm there then! Might make 'Murderous Monday's' a thing Grin

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ollieplimsoles · 17/03/2016 20:59

dont worry op, I'm with the others!

I read horror novels from a very early age and I loved delving into the minds of serial killers when I got older. What I don't know about Ted Bundy is no body's business.
In uni we had to make models and put on a miniature show- I made puppets of Dennis Neilsen, Brady and Hindley.

DixieNormas · 17/03/2016 21:00

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Quietlifenotonyournelly · 17/03/2016 21:00

I used to love reading about serial killers don't have the time now very fascinating, I probably started reading books about them from aged 14.
Despite not being fazed by reading the gory details etc I don't particularly like horror films.
I wouldn't worry op.

JessTitchener · 17/03/2016 21:01

Sorry, I won't mention any other websites!

Except for The Charley Project blog. And Listverse. Stay away from websleuths though, they are actually fucking mental there.

HarlettOScara · 17/03/2016 21:05

I was reading James Herbert and Stephen King at age 10 and then progresses to true crime not long after, with a particular interests in serial killers. I struggle to kill so much as a spider these days so it hasn't inspired me but I do have an ongoing interest in human psychology and, in particular, psychopathology. I wouldn't worry about him too much.

Now, ca someone recommend some of the true crime podcasts you're talking about please. I'm big Serial fan and would love to find some other stuff to get into.

whattodowiththepoo · 17/03/2016 21:09

He is 16? I was obsessed with evil figures younger than he is. YABU

MistressMerryWeather · 17/03/2016 21:09

Websleuths rings a bell.

Are they fighty or a just overly obsessed bunch?