To be annoyed that men are using the ladies cubicle at work to do a number 2...

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I work in an office with all men except for one female who works downstairs but she isn't in very often.
There are 2 males that work downstairs also and are clocking when the lady downstairs isn't in and then they use the ladies loo to do their number 2's, leave skid marks in the loo, leave the toilet seats up and don't even bother opening the window when they've finished if they've done a particularly smelly one!

They have a male toilet downstairs, there is another male toilet on the middle floor and another one upstairs but only one female toilet so why they are choosing to use the ladies loo I don't quite know - all I can figure out is that they don't want to make their toilet messy/smelly so they choose to use ours.

They don't do it when the lady downstairs is in but they KNOW I am here because I park right outside the front door which they have to walk past to go upstairs!

We are a remote setup here so we don't have any office managers/HR people based here we pretty much manage things between us but as everyone here is male and no one is really in charge as such its difficult to work out who to ask/complain to...

A year or so ago there was another male downstairs who didn't care who was in the office he would use the ladies loo religiously every morning and leave his deposits behind in the loo for us to see (lovely) so HR did send an email round but that didn't deter him in the slightest (he's left now luckily) so not sure it's worth bothering to annoy HR with what might be such a trivial thing.

I was thinking about putting up a sign inside the door saying something like this is a female only toilet, please use your own etc but is that too passive aggressive??

Get some porno posters of men with huge cocks and post them up in the loos

Where my DD works there is only one toilet but there is an equal number of men and woman, up to five people at different times of the day. How the company get away with it I don't know.

You should leave period blood all over it and the gents, that will make them stop.

Oh no, wait, you're a civilised decent human being, not a barnyard animal!!! Shame the same can't be said for the horse shitters. Def YANBU.

YABU and transphobic...

Maybe they identify as female....

Just have a straight up conversation with them, and explain that when people have a poo, they have to clean the afterwards and open the window.

I can't believe people poo at work?!

The college in my town has a new building with unisex toilets (not single ones, lined up cubicles so you're all together awkward when you're using rustling sanpro), the head teacher had to hold the college's first ever assembly to tell boys to stop pissing on the seat! Why do men struggle with using the bathroom so much? You'd think they'd have learnt by now.

I'd put a note up! At least to tell them to clean up after themselves.

Make the biggest fuss possible while using the gents!
I personally don't mind unisex loos, but there's no excuse for leaving any loo in a state!

Since there's only a couple of women, could you ask for a lock to be put on the door? If other women who are visiting need to use it and you and the receptionist have the key, would that solve it?

Just one loo for 30 people, and then another for a couple of the opposite sex seems a bit unfair imho.

Our 'office' toilet is unisex, in the reception area, whilst the shop floor tends to be men only.

We are woefully under provided in my view.

They'll ignore the sign.

They figure that there's only one of you in the office and what the fuck do you think you're going to do about it - they have a choice of facilities of their own but this is a great way to show the little lady who is in charge.

Is there any kind of facilities management department you can speak to about getting locks or keycodes?

Would piss me off since I would want to use it to number two in privacy since only one other female works downstairs.

I'd just confront them, tbh. Ideally in a "your mother would be ashamed" tone.

why do you need your own bathroom?

the ratio's are well off if it's mostly men there. Do you think men would bother complaining if the situation was reversed?

You want locks and a keycode to keep it 'women only'. Jesus! I bet you'd be moaning if there were rooms with a man-only key code.

ps. I like to use the disabled loo for my post-lunch poo. More space and generally smells nicer. Also, according to general consensus, only mens' poos smell.

I hate Unisex loos. Whenever you go in there, the toilet seat is up and there is urine on the seat sill and floor. If you are female and wearing trousers you have to make sure they don't touch the floor unless you want piss urine stains on them. They seem to be becoming more common. Personally I would like to see all toilets with a washbasin in them become standard,

Unisex toilets are awful. We had them at the last place I worked at. Im so glad I work from home now - no more raised toilet seats or unflushed yellow urine.

*they have a choice of facilities of their own but this is a great way to show the little lady who is in charge.&

^ this

Definitely go for a lock IMO.

they have a choice of facilities of their own but this is a great way to show the little lady who is in charge.

Sorry, it was meant to be bold.

We put a number lock on ours after one too many male shit explosions occurred.
Now they have a filthy stinking shit smeared loo and ours remains fragrant! We even have a stash of posh hand cream and naice reed diffusers in there now.

YANBU to put up a sign. I had a similar problem when we were living at a campsite in summer. There were 2 toilet blocks, one for men and one for women but the men insisted on coming into ours. After a group of about 200 students arrived the toilets were terrifying, shit over the seats, smeared over the walls and door locks and young men just sitting on the sinks and hanging around chatting to the girls. DD was 6 months old at the time and I had to take her into the toilets with me each time as we were alone.

I put up signs saying ladies only on each cubicle door which worked for a while but the men began slowly creeping in. What finally worked was shaming any men found in there by asking loudly "Why are you going into a FEMALE toilet?" from across the other side of the campsite. The shit explosions eventually stopped but there were plenty of discarded tampons/pads and other paraphernalia which led to me stalking people into the toilet and checking that they left in clean.

I'm sure they all thought I was batty or a complete toilet Nazi but trying to use the loo at 2am with a sleeping 6 month old while dodging shit, tampons and cockroaches is not exactly fun.