Dmil is driving me nuts at the moment. She has lately started to meddle in our lives where she used to sort of be happy to fit in with us. I.e. inviting herself round when dh is exhausted after working 6 day weeks in a very very stressful job, not taking no for an answer when he says he needs a day to himself. When she comes it's always on her terms at a time to suit her not us. If we say no she just makes sly digs at dh to make him feel bad. She drives us potty with the kids, deliberately undermines us in front of them and refuses to bring them back on time if she has them.
Anyway she's quite a people pleaser and this has now manifested itself in her contacting me and 'politely reminding' me of birthdays she feels we need to send cards out for. Usually goes through dh but he laughs and tells her where to go so now she's starting on me! Because she knows dh thinks it's batshit 'will forget'. Thing is the would be recipients of these cards are on awkward terms with her and she obviously sees this as a way to mend bridges. We don't talk to them however and I don't send cards to very many people. Just immediate family. I do this because I think they are pointless and I don't want the aggro of sending cards to people every year. I just don't have time.
Aibu? If not how should I respond to the latest prompt without seeming an evil cow 