Husband asked me to 'stop having a go' at him ??!!

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Is he 13??? Am I his mum ??? Is this a normal conversation for a husband and wife ??!! I only asked him to get off the phone and talk to his kids, shame on me !!!

I probably would say dry similar to that if my OH was mithering and getting in my face. Nobodies like being spoken down to, as you've discovered.

That's a perfectly normal thing to say.
What does he usually say if he feels annoyed?

I feel your pain my dp is constantly on his phone and the children and me are invisible he is grumpy most nights and just stares at his phone, but I do think he is over worked and under paid because on his one day off he is fine and happy and doesn't stare at his phone (he doesn't need his phone for work he just goes on Fb or on a football site) but anytime I mention how often he is on his phone ignoring us he says something similar, so I've given up saying anything now. But it is annoying when you feel like you're doing everything and he is just sat staring at a phone! I do not think you were being unreasonable at all.

Support doesn't mean you automatically get to be right.

You sound quite aggressive.

That's a perfectly normal thing to say to someone else.

You've had 3 children together and he's never said 'stop having a go at me?' What does he normally say? when you're having a go at him

Fwiw. I don't think that's a particularly childish turn of phrase, maybe 'you're not the boss of me' or 'what are you the fun police' but not that, no.

sounds like you embarrassed him to whoever he was speaking to

Playing in phone is a bit different to talking on phone.

However it still comes down to how you said it, how long he had been on it and how regularly this happens.

I say "stop having a go at me" to DP all the time, he has a tone in his voice which makes it sound like he's having a go
Perfectly normal
So yes yabu

Yabu.

just re read your answers, maybe he was in that zone of hoping he could have that car, i do that sometimes but i wouldnt be pissed if someone said stop having a go at me, i would stop having a go at them lol

People on here are just trying to be as unpleasant as possible - I would ignore them OP.
Yes, your DH is being extremely childish - he sounds delightful

OP, you sound immature....him, just using a regular turn of phrase.

Ok, if you just want response on whether it is okay to say "stop having a go at me", then yes, that is a normal thing to say, and not particularly childish.

I'm confused, you spoke to your husband like he was a child and he had a go back at you in the same manner

What Murphys said. You had a go at him. He didn't like it.

If DP was having a go at me I might say that, you seem very childish.
Awaiting massive drip feed.

Sounds like a very mature and grown up marriage relationship.

YANBU OP. I can't stand when DP says that to me. It's a horrible expression and makes me totally see red

Yep, my husband has said that to me too and I think it's childish but I also think he knows he is in the wrong and I have a good point but he's not going to admit he's wrong. My husband is barely around during the working week, I get no help with the kids so when he is here on the weekend, I expect him to step up, but he spends all his down time on the computer or phone if we are out! So frustrating!