To ask about dummies?

[Tameonefirst]

I am currently pregnant with dc2. After having dc1 I was given a talk by a trainee midwife on the beneficial use of dummies, and I understand they can be helpful but I decided that I believe that some babies do need them to settle which is why I have never said I wouldn't ever not use one, but I won't force it on my kids. I did try my dc1 at one point when u thought it might help ear popping.

Since then, I have noticed some mums and dads putting dummies in their babies/child's mouth at the first wimper, even keeping it there when the child tries to spit it out.

Then these parents decide that their child must give up their dummy when they think it's no longer appropriate, not when the child does.

But, my AIBU us is it unreasonable to force a child to use something as a soother which you then stop before they're ready?

Three of my four decided for themselves when they had had enough. With DD DH took it away and sat with her that night, she was upset and I did feel mean but it was only one night then she never asked for it again.
DS1 just said he was too big for a dummy, with the other two we put it in a drawer next to their bed at bedtime (they only really had it for sleep anyway) sometimes they got it out the drawer and some nights they didn't . Eventually they just stopped getting it.
Mine all had other comfort objects though, soft toys or muslins.

I sucked my thumb from birth until I was pg with DC1, so there's a chance it might be a long time until the child decides it's no longer appropriate.

Like others have said there are a lot of things that children like but parents decide when it's time to move on. I remember crying at about 6 years old because my Mum took my flat cot pillow away and bought me a new pillow, then I actually slept on the new pillow and loved it.

Just to say, none of mine had dummies or ducked their thumb.

But my dentist asked if DS2 (11) had as his teeth showed signs of both.

So whether your DC have them or not you might still want to keep an eye on their teeth.

Dd1 had a dummy until she was 3 for sleeping she needed/liked the comfort and it fell out she would whimper for it Dd2 didnt like it so didnt have 1what logistics are you trying to work out its up to the parent how much their children how they use a dummy.

Daughter was sucking her thumb on the 20 week scan. Hasn't stopped yet (she's 5) and she point blank refused to swap it for a dummy. Thems just the breaks.

No problems with her teeth (she has a gap between her front teeth but that's caused by a lip tie rather than her thumb.