To find this off putting in potential man?

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I'm prepared to be flamed!

I've started to dabble in the world of Internet dating and I've been chatting to this guy who ticks every box though he's a couple of years younger than me (24), he's really keen to meet up but this one ridiculous little thing puts me off a little (not why I haven't met him yet by the way)

Every single time I'm talking to him he's eating take away, chipper, McDonald's, kfc, ordering pizza, drive through.
I don't know why it puts me off, not so much the "greed" but just the shite it is and the fact he doesn't cook (but then I'm not a great cook either AND he has a better body than me!) So I'm not really sure why!

It's not a huge issue but I'd be interested to see am I alone in finding this off putting?

It wouldn't put me off if I liked everything else about him. My dh lived off takeaways, fast food and spam for years because he worked away so was limited to what he could get and couldn't afford a proper restaurant meal every day.

When we moved in together he was still away all week until the last few years when he's mostly at home. He's late 30s and wears the same size 30 jeans he always wore.

It can be hard to not pick up his bad habits when we're both too tired to cook but it can be done.

DH lived off tinned ravioli, ready meals, tinned soup etc before we got together. He was just lonely and didn't like cooking just for himself, plus he used to have a proper lunch at work. He's a great cook and enjoys cooking for others, so I wouldn't judge him just on that.

I know a few guys who eat like this when they're single. It's lazy can't be arsedness.

I went out with a man who barely ate even though he lived next to the Spar . It really wound me up. He would turn up of an evening and I would say, have you eaten? He would say, yes. I would say, oh what? He would reply, an apple. He was 53.

He just had no imagination or enjoyment of food and that did affect things.

In your case I think I would give him a chance. Not many 24 year olds would cook full healthy dinners for one. I certainly didn't at that age and when my dc are not with me I don't cook. I am happy with a ham sandwich and a cup of tea.

I was like this before I had DC. Granted, I had them slightly younger than he is so changed at a younger age but I'd probably still be like that now if I were just a single childless woman. Why bother cooking elaborate healthy meals just for yourself? It always seemed pointless to me, especially after getting in from a day at work. plus I only learned how to cook when I had DC so had to.

I wouldn't dismiss him for that. He's only 24. I might think it if you were talking about a man in his mid thirties. It's pretty normal behaviour for singletons in their early-mid twenties. Just meet him and go off who he is rather than his diet.

Just meet him and go off who he is rather than his diet

Yeah you're so right!

I would find this a major turn-off. No one is suggesting that someone needs to be cooking himself veal Cordon Bleu for one every night, but there are plenty of meals and snacks that involve minimal cooking/assembly but which are not a diet of fairly revolting crap. And quite apart from living on a diet of junk food, the fact that his texts (right at the outset of knowing one another) seem to register the nightly acquisition of takeaways as a major topic of conversation wouldn't suggest a lively conversationalist...

I would worry that he wasn't very bright. Every half intelligent human must know by now that an exclusively KFC/McDonald's/pizza diet is actually a bit dangerous.

I'm 46 - I live alone and have probably cooked a meal about ten times since I left school. I live off sandwiches and salads.

Nice to know it would put people off dating me though - just as well I don't do relationships!